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If you are divorced, change your phone number. You are being manipulated big time. It sounds like a psych hospita may be just what she needs. You have got to let yourself off the hook and move on. She will never move on until you cut all ties, it possibly could be the best thing you could do, especially while she is in a hospital.
My son went through much the same. He wound up going to the hospital and being sucked into her recovery by the counselors etc. All it did was delay the inevitable...she left again, leaving him deeper in debt and without the rent money that she took out of their account and bought a bus ticket without warning. It took him over a year to get himself back on track, instead of taking her calls, and trying to clean up her mess.
Please think about yourself, because I'll bet you haven't if you've been in this type of a relationship. Walk away...cut al ties...Then the people that are supposed to be caring about and for her will be forced to step up.
You should also look for a support group dealing w/ similar type spouses. B.E. Beginning Experience....for folks divorced and trying to build a life afterwards... offered through churches is a wonderful program...check and see if you have that in your area. Here is a link. Beginning Experience
Almost any sort of individual counseling would be beneficial...a way to help yourself deprogram from the dysfunctional hold this person has on you. And, how do you know....because you took her calls and her texts....Unhook yourself...save your own life.
You might also consider Co-dependency support groups and/or counseling. A link....there are tons more available, do a quick search for other links. Signs of a Codependent Relationship
Good luck to you.
Last edited by JanND; 03-04-2013 at 02:13 PM..
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She texted me to say she would be taking the big screen TV (which we agreed was hers), since she's moving into her dads basement. I politely said "ok."
Then a little while later she said nevermind, as it's probably not the best place for it, and I could keep it for now.
I honestly don't care.
I'm too busy with a crush on somebody else right now, so everything's good.
She texted me to say she would be taking the big screen TV (which we agreed was hers), since she's moving into her dads basement. I politely said "ok."
Then a little while later she said nevermind, as it's probably not the best place for it, and I could keep it for now.
I honestly don't care.
I'm too busy with a crush on somebody else right now, so everything's good.
Have the tv delivered to her so that you no longer have anything she needs to come back or contact you for.
And i hate to sound like a real ass here, but stop caring for her emotionally if possible. Whatever happens to her is on her head. It sounds SOO wrong of me to say that but it's the easiest way to cut her out of your life.
note: i do not usually say these things about people who attempt suicide, but in such cases like this. it's better off you arent involved in it anymore.
And i hate to sound like a real ass here, but stop caring for her emotionally if possible. Whatever happens to her is on her head. It sounds SOO wrong of me to say that but it's the easiest way to cut her out of your life.
note: i do not usually say these things about people who attempt suicide, but in such cases like this. it's better off you arent involved in it anymore.
I agree to an extent. It's time for her family to step up, and for her to decide to get her life together. I'll always love her, and it's heart breaking to see (and live through..), but it no longer directly involves me.
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