Why do men like to stare at women, but not approach? (sleeping, feelings)
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I think that's some of it, but I think there's also something much deeper going on. Fear of being unable to perform with a real, living, breathing partner. An inferiority complex that sets in by partaking in a voyeuristic activity all the time. I don't think it's healthy or natural to habitually expose yourself to such material. Admittedly, most of my thoughts on this are anecdotal based on what I've read here of all places, but I'm definitely seeing a trend and it's not getting near enough attention IMO.
You might be onto something, and I might be an anomaly...but, I've been heavily consuming porn from a young age, and it never instilled a fear of being unable to perform. It increased my sexual appetites, awareness, and expectation, but I feel these are positives. And I've never had any issues with stamina like many guys seem to, as it's engrained in me the man is supposed to last. These 2 minute wonders crack me up, I had no issues, even my first time. Mental control, guys. I'll still use porn even when in sexual relationships, sometimes I'll feel like having my partner join me. It's a hobby kind of, like watching football, or reading a certain genre of book. Never a total replacement for actual intimacy, though extra useful for dry spells. But I'm good at avoiding dry spells.
I'm glad there's so many beta males posting here and in the wild, it makes it easier for me to go after the girls I want. In a busy urban environment with high pedestrian traffic, I might glance at a few dozen women over the course of a few city blocks. I'll approach anyone, at any given time. I've approached at school orientations. I've hit on my waitress. Sometimes I just don't feel like it, sometimes I just don't think they're worth it, or I really have to be somewhere. But if the interest is high enough, I'm approaching, no matter what, and I don't care if I get rejected. Onto the 3 billion other women...scarcity of women who will have sex with you is a myth believed in by those who are not bold in action and thought. And to all the guys who say "it's not that simple" and you'll just get rejected and you don't want to bother women, I wasn't always this way, but you can become this way.
Don't let that stop you! At least you can chat with people in the check-out line. That's just being a good neighbor, where I come from. it's just natural. Nobody's "busy" in the check-out line. Everyone's just standing there, waiting. It helps pass the time to make small talk. And you never know where it might lead.
Because it doesn't deserve a significant amount of attention except from those who have an agenda. For the millionth time video games, porn, the internet and other forms of media are not to blame for people's issues and shortcomings. They have themselves to blame for these issues. There is still a lot of guys out there who can moderately consume these things and yet still have decent relationships and can be decent people.
I don't blame the porn any more than I blame guns for murder. I'm far from a religious zealot for pointing out that maybe it isn't the best thing for healthy human development get your "fix" by watching others have sex.
A young man goes to the market, to trade his wares. In the din of the crowded bazaar, from across the shadows, he notices the supple form of a delicate young lady, demurely going about her business, gliding to and fro. A tradesman calls for something, a cart passes by. Then the lady again. Her eyes flash from the shadows, and the young man is smitten! And then - and then! - their eyes lock together, crowd and bustle be damned, and instantly their hearts leap in ineffable mutual fondness....
What is this, Tales from the Arabian Nights? Sometimes I wonder whether some of the go-get 'em, "use your inner masculinity" posters are living on a different planet from that which I inhabit. On my planet, gentlemen, these wondrous tales of love engendered in the market, live in Scheherazade's lips, the stuff of myth and fantasy - and not attainable experience.
wow, i sure am glad i dont have your attitude, its so limiting when it comes to approaching people.
I'm always noticed men staring, but never approach is it because I look away and act aloof? I also noticed married men looking, but why do they want me look at them and smile and they think they still have it going on. One time this guy was looking at me and I looked up at him and then he turned away quickly like he was embarrassed because he was looking. Do some men don't like getting caught staring?
Do you want to be approached by those men that you catch checking you out?
I cold approached women before. Never again. Won't approach on the street no matter how good she looks. It's creepy. Won't approach in a store. I'm in there to get my stuff and get out.
I don't blame the porn any more than I blame guns for murder. I'm far from a religious zealot for pointing out that maybe it isn't the best thing for healthy human development get your "fix" by watching others have sex.
Well for one it's pretty much for entertainment. Two, if people are too stupid to know the difference between porn and real life they only have themselves to blame. That pretty much goes for any form of media and technology that people like to scapegoat.
I'm not here to make enemies, but some of you guys have me shaking my head. Now, I am older (43) and married for 19 years, but I always approached women growing up. Hell, me and my friends would bet money on who could get the most numbers at the mall or wherever. We made a game of it. Doing this over time makes it really easy to approach women or anyone for that matter. I later worked in sales and this served me well as I was forced to approach total strangers to try to sell products.
Guys, you will be amazed at the ladies you can pull if you just step to them (with confidence). It can even be false confidence. Just think of some opener to break the ice and chat with her. Talk for 2 to 3 minutes and leave her or get her number if its going well. Give her your phone and tell her to put her number in there. If she rejects you who cares....trust me she will be flattered that you made the attempt. Why do you think women get all dressed up, go to the gym, constantly check themselves to make sure they look good? They want dudes to approach.
Just start talking to everyone..old ladies, old men, kids, doesnt matter...your conversation skills will improve. Women are crazy about confidence and approaching them takes balls that most men don't have...women know this and admire a man who is not afraid to put himself out there.
Don't try 5 pickups with women..get rejected and quit...it has to be a daily thing. you should almost feel like "she is lucky that i am taking my time to talk to her" thats confidence...dont be an *******, but she should feel like that you are equal to or greater than she is as far as social status is concerned. Dont compliment her non stop..an initial compliment is cool...but what really works is playful banter later in the conversation....its tough to give you specifics on what to say..because for it to work...it needs to match your personality...for me I will normally say something like "I can tell you are wanting my number...but my mom don't like girls calling the house....just put yours in my phone and maybe we can hang out some time". Now being almost 30 years old saying my mom dont like phone calls...a lot of times they would think that was hilarious...sometimes not...but it isnt what you say...its how you say it. I'm dead serious when I say it.
I am no casanova by any means, but I always loved the challenge of trying to pick up women. Even as a married man, I still flirt from time to time to see if "Ive still got it". I don't take numbers or pursue, but I do like to still see if I can get a woman to have a conversation with me and hold her attention.
Come on guys...these sexy ass women dont want you to just stare...get your nuts out of the pawn shop and talk to her. I guarantee when other dudes walk by and see you chatting with a sexy woman they will admire you and the woman will feel good about herself regardless if you get the number or not.
It seems that some people can't accept that not everyone is super social.
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