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It's been over a year that I have actually been in the same room with my ex.
This is just getting rediculous.
Still to this very day I think about her atleast every 15 minutes, if not more.
Ever since the day we broke up, we never spoke again. There's been atleast 60 times already where I've been on the verge of contacting her to talk to her but I've stayed true to the "no contact" rule, as everyone keeps telling me that is the fastest and best way to move on from a break-up.
Well guess what? I still want to talk to her. Badly.
Now this is the part where it really gets sad: EVERYTIME I think about "what" I would say to her, or what we would talk about.... I can't come up with anything that would be worth talking about. I mean, I can state the obvious and tell her I'm still in love with her but everybody on here knows that would just make me look like a very sad person who realised he couldn't find a better option in life.
It gets even worse: I know for a fact that we are NOT compatible. We are way to different in so many different ways, it's not even funny.... So let's say tomorrow I would win the lottery and would have the financial means to move to where she's living now (different continent) and we would re-unite as a couple.... we STILL wouldn't last because I would still get annoyed at her habbit of wanting to eat dinner in front of the TV.. I would still freak out whenever she tells me she just spent 700 bucks on clothes and a new cellphone "she really needed" ... she would still get annoyed with my circumstancial negativity.... she would still hate to go to the park/beach with me because she hates bugs and anything close to nature... etc. etc.
So.. why........ is my brain, heart, whatever.. still telling me "she is the one" .. "you need to call her" ... "you need to get her back" ...
I've had stretches where it's been better, and I was convinced I was over her... but I'm not. It is so sad to realise, and even typing this is very confronting... but for some reason I just can not move on. I have never been happier then when I was with her.
before anyone asks: she is no longer on my Facebook or anything like that, so I have literally no idea of what's going on in her life. Well technically she is still a FB friend but I adjusted my news-stream so she wouldn't show up in it.
Everytime you think that, just keep telling yourself how stupid that is. There are way too many beautiful women out there to be fixated on someone who isn't yours.
It's been over a year that I have actually been in the same room with my ex.
This is just getting rediculous.
Still to this very day I think about her atleast every 15 minutes, if not more.
Ever since the day we broke up, we never spoke again. There's been atleast 60 times already where I've been on the verge of contacting her to talk to her but I've stayed true to the "no contact" rule, as everyone keeps telling me that is the fastest and best way to move on from a break-up.
Well guess what? I still want to talk to her. Badly.
Now this is the part where it really gets sad: EVERYTIME I think about "what" I would say to her, or what we would talk about.... I can't come up with anything that would be worth talking about. I mean, I can state the obvious and tell her I'm still in love with her but everybody on here knows that would just make me look like a very sad person who realised he couldn't find a better option in life.
So fu*king what! This is just pride and ego which accomplishes nothing. (but do read below before acting please)
It gets even worse: I know for a fact that we are NOT compatible. We are way to different in so many different ways, it's not even funny.... So let's say tomorrow I would win the lottery and would have the financial means to move to where she's living now (different continent) and we would re-unite as a couple.... we STILL wouldn't last because I would still get annoyed at her habbit of wanting to eat dinner in front of the TV.. I would still freak out whenever she tells me she just spent 700 bucks on clothes and a new cellphone "she really needed" ... she would still get annoyed with my circumstancial negativity.... she would still hate to go to the park/beach with me because she hates bugs and anything close to nature... etc. etc.
So.. why........ is my brain, heart, whatever.. still telling me "she is the one" .. "you need to call her" ... "you need to get her back" ...
Because you need to act on this for your own piece of mind.
I've had stretches where it's been better, and I was convinced I was over her... but I'm not. It is so sad to realise, and even typing this is very confronting... but for some reason I just can not move on. I have never been happier then when I was with her.
before anyone asks: she is no longer on my Facebook or anything like that, so I have literally no idea of what's going on in her life. Well technically she is still a FB friend but I adjusted my news-stream so she wouldn't show up in it.
Your first step is finding out. If she is with someone and it is going well, this does have an effect on your chances of course.
Go ahead and kill me, I deserve it lol
You likely need to take action. Please do so tactfully, start with hello, how are you.
Youre really advising him to get back together ? Come on.
I don't see it that way. I see it more as:
The OP clearly has some obsession about this and cannot, no matter how hard he tries, let said obsession go. It's either time for him to put all of his cards on the table and tell her how he feels or simply see a therapist to gain a set of tools that can help him move on.
The OP clearly has some obsession about this and cannot, no matter how hard he tries, let said obsession go. It's either time for him to put all of his cards on the table and tell her how he feels or simply see a therapist to gain a set of tools that can help him move on.
--Dim
It's time for him to move on and fix his life.
Anyone that obsessed with a person has some serious issues that need to be worked out and is in no way ready for a relationship.
Youre really advising him to get back together ? Come on.
Of course. It is what he wants. Why shouldn't he have what he wants? At least he must try.
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