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you know how that saying goes.
do you guys believe it? also I would like you guys to share personal experiences.
were you at cheater ? did you get cheated on?
What is your thought .
Blanket statements rarely describe a group accurately. My thoughts are that it really depends upon why that particular person cheated, how old they were etc. If someone you are interested in disclosed that they cheated on someone else-- then its something you should certainly discuss.
If they evade the question, give some unsatisfactory quick answer and change the subject, get angry that you asked or otherwise try to lead you away from the question -- then there is a good chance they have not dealt with the issue and will probably cheat on you.
Once a cheate, always a cheater seems to be as accurate as they come. There are rare exceptions, where a person cheats once and never again, but I woul dnever advise counting on it. What is more astounding, is how many people sleep with someone who is in a relationship, enabling them to cheat, yet expect loyalty from the cheater in their future together. Yeah, right...lol
It depends. There are serial cheaters and there are one time cheaters. There are those who are overcome with guilt and there are those that feel no guilt whatsoever.
It's not always true, there are people who cheat and immediately regret it and never does it again.
As a guy who was cheated on before, once she cheats on me, I want absolutely nothing to do with her, ever. Even if she regrets doing it, I can no longer trust you, and that is what breaks the relationship.
My take is that trust is broken, and even if you never do it again, the person you did it to once has every right to proceed as if you would absolutely do it again. Something about making one's bed and lying in it...
Nobody with any self-respect wants to take a chance on somebody being that occasional exception to the rule. The bottom line is that your actions speak to your integrity, and once you've damaged it, you've damaged it. Trying to predict people's behavior is always iffy, but past behavior is statistically a VERY good indication of future behavior. Behavior that is reinforced is behavior that gets repeated, and there's not much that's more reinforcing to a cheater than successfully cheating. Add in, too, that most people who cheat do so for the rush and the excitement of it, and that endorphin rush is VERY reinforcing...odds lie heavily on the side of repeat behavior when the payoff is so reinforcing.
Ultimately, it really doesn't MATTER if you will never do it again, if you're a cheater. The reality is that you will be perceived as a cheater, and one who could do it again, whether or not you consider this to be fair. It's just one of those cases where the perception is what's really going to matter. Think of it like another potentially unfair blanket statement...convicted felons are likely to be repeat offenders. Are most people going to date, marry, hire, etc. a convicted felon who has done the crime, done the time, and vows he or she won't do it again? Maybe the person never steps one toe astray again in his or her life...but the past behavior is there and will always affect perception.
People CAN change. Only thing is, most often, they don't.
we've had this debate SO many times.
I think it's a blanket statement that serves no purpose.
My father? He will always cheat. Because it's what he wants to do, and he has no concept of remorse.
But I've met plenty of cheaters who did it once and will never do so again. Some were even serial cheaters who turned around. The main deciding factor is whether the cheating is situational or if it is pathological.
Yep and cheaters are low class. There are a couple of known cheaters here who have admitted cheating on spouses and they are low class.
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