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Older guys play to many games. I dated older guys in my early and mid 20's and now looking back I wish I would have dated the guys my age.
That way,we would have grown together.
Lol...not all older guys who are interested in younger early-20's gals are like that...some of them can truly respect and treat their special ladies, as 100% full and true equals, with no games and no inequality whatsoever
Life does not always work out the way we hope, I always wonder what it would have been like to get married in my early 20's and have a text book life not worrying about who is going to screw me in a divorce or child support or counseling or whatever.
First you have to make it through those first 5 years of marriage. Those were a *****. I still knew he was awesome, but there are major growing pains when you marry early. I'm glad we did it and wouldn't change it. Most people wait until 30 to marry here and I can't tell you how many times we got told by friends that we were ape**** crazy.
We worked hard for it but it was also a lot of luck. It's definitely not textbook or simple. I wouldn't advise anyone to go aim early or later. I suspect it's tough either way.
First you have to make it through those first 5 years of marriage. Those were a *****. I still knew he was awesome, but there are major growing pains when you marry early. I'm glad we did it and wouldn't change it. Most people wait until 30 to marry here and I can't tell you how many times we got told by friends that we were ape**** crazy.
We worked hard for it but it was also a lot of luck. It's definitely not textbook or simple. I wouldn't advise anyone to go aim early or later. I suspect it's tough either way.
Do you think it was because you two were still changing (maturing) or he was immature? I know generally dudes mature faster than girls..?
Do you think it was because you two were still changing (maturing) or he was immature? I know generally dudes mature faster than girls..?
We were both maturing. If you grow together, it all works out. If it happens separately, inevitably, you're going to be heading in different directions.
...dunno. I was pretty straight-laced in college but had fun, got a job straight out of school, worked my ass off throughout my early/mid-twenties, and now I'm sort of letting loose a bit at 27. I basically spent the last so many years saving up and having a fairly boring life in a rural area that's close to work, living in my grandparent's rental house.
I just moved across the state line to a booming college town with more social opportunities, bought a house on my own, set up a music studio in said house, bought a small sports truck that I've always wanted, have plans to buy a muscle car this summer since it's always been a dream of mine, etc. I'm sort of at a point where I'm more concerned with enjoying right now than wanting something different out of the past or worrying about the future anymore. I spent the last so many years setting myself up for "the future", but you have to eventually cut that mentality off at some point and start living. Hemorrhaging years of happiness off of your life in favor of furthering your career/saving money is somewhat risky...you can very easily fall into a trap of sorts and never learn to be happy with what you are and where you are. I think that I came dangerously close to that.
I feel like it's time to finally enjoy all that I've worked for...essentially, I've traded time for savings. It should always be more about making yourself happy, whatever that may be. While working my ass off during the past several years and doing "the right thing", I've basically found out a lot about myself and know what I want out of life for now. I don't care about what I missed out on, I'm just ready to make where I am right now one of the best stretches of my life. Not really sure about how I feel in terms of "did I waste valuable years for my career?", but I'm beginning something enjoyable now because of it all...it's probably just a wash in the end anyway.
Last edited by TelecasterBlues; 05-27-2013 at 03:24 AM..
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