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Originally Posted by oregonwoodsmoke
Walk away from this guy. Don't look back.
He let his guard down and unwittingly told you something really ugly about himself. It's beyond foolish to rationalize away warning signs and you've been handed a huge red flag. You absolutely do not know that he would never mistreat a girl; you've just made that up and you are rationalizing his bad behavior.
In fact, I would be slightly more cautious around his male friends since people tend to hang out with others who share their belief system.
Keep two eyes open. I can joke and tease and never mention the word rape. Ever. To my friend? To a stranger? When is this ever right?
Well maybe the one about the bear and the hunter. That joke is hilarious. But it's a bear and a hunter and they aren't REAL> You are real. Therefore, no rape jokes.
Inappropriate. This was a platonic friend of yours? Really strange thing to say. Whether he has romantic feelings for you will show itself in other ways in the future. The question is: would you be interested in a guy like this?
That guy friend of mine joked about raping me as we were teasing each other (in a totally non-sexual way...). We were joking, telling annoying things to each other on purpose and he ended up saying this, in a joking way of course, kind of like "if you don't stop this i'm gonna rape you... so please don't stop ! ". He is a well educated guy, always nice to me, i know for sure he would never mistreat a girl of course. I made him understand i didn't really find the joke funny, things got awkward and he kind of apologized and felt a bit stupid...
What does it mean ? Could it mean he might be a bit attracted to me ?
Thanks in advance...
It is a rather tasteless attempt to let you know he finds you attractive and would like to sleep with you if he could. But don't worry. Chances are, every other male friend you have wants to sleep with you, too. That doesn't mean they (or he) is going to do anything about it.
Here is a rule of thumb that will rarely fail you in life: men almost never go out of their way to befriend women unless they have a romantic and/or sexual motive. Almost never. If you have a male friend who goes out of his way to see you and spend time with you, the chances he hopes for something more than friendship some day are about 99%.
A statement like that would unnerve me. Joke or no joke, friend or no friend. People don't say something like that to another. If it were me in your shoes, I would excuse myself from all future hang outs.
That guy friend of mine joked about raping me as we were teasing each other (in a totally non-sexual way...). We were joking, telling annoying things to each other on purpose and he ended up saying this, in a joking way of course, kind of like "if you don't stop this i'm gonna rape you... so please don't stop ! ". He is a well educated guy, always nice to me, i know for sure he would never mistreat a girl of course. I made him understand i didn't really find the joke funny, things got awkward and he kind of apologized and felt a bit stupid...
What does it mean ? Could it mean he might be a bit attracted to me ?
Thanks in advance...
If you have a guy friend, that means he's attracted to you.
Guys aren't friends with girls that they wouldn't consider having sex with.
That guy friend of mine joked about raping me as we were teasing each other (in a totally non-sexual way...). We were joking, telling annoying things to each other on purpose and he ended up saying this, in a joking way of course, kind of like "if you don't stop this i'm gonna rape you... so please don't stop ! ". He is a well educated guy, always nice to me, i know for sure he would never mistreat a girl of course. I made him understand i didn't really find the joke funny, things got awkward and he kind of apologized and felt a bit stupid...
What does it mean ? Could it mean he might be a bit attracted to me ?
Thanks in advance...
Tread carefully.
Rape is really not funny.
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