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Alot of people are misunderstanding the question and I apologize if I'm confusing some people.
This question is NOT about communication.
Of course if you are dating someone for some time now and if you want to know where you stand then yes communication is needed. But again this question is not about that.
My question/topic is: If you just met someone and they tell you "I'm dating others" wouldn't you see that as indirect rejection?
Yes it's a INDIRECT REJECTION because why would they need to tell that to someone who they really like? It's like going on a job interview and being told......."we are interviewing other people" which is a indirect way of saying YOU ARE NOT THE PERSON I"M LOOKING FOR
Alot of people are misunderstanding the question and I apologize if I'm confusing some people.
This question is NOT about communication.
Of course if you are dating someone for some time now and if you want to know where you stand then yes communication is needed. But again this question is not about that.
My question/topic is: If you just met someone and they tell you "I'm dating others" wouldn't you see that as indirect rejection?
No, because I don't expect every single man to be sitting around waiting for me to show up in his life. However, I wouldn't go out of my way to impress him, and if we did go out, I would not expect too much from him by way of emotional connection or even friendship. He would have to do all of the initiation, and would pretty much serve as entertainment if I had nothing else going on for the night he suggests.
What does it mean if you met a person & they admitted that they are dating others?
It means they're dating others, as people do when they're dating. (It sounds like you realize that, though some other posters on the thread seem strangely confused by the concept that dating is not automatically an exclusive relationship.) I agree that it was strange/inappropriate of him to randomly bring it up to you. It's possible, as you say, that he was trying to make you jealous, but it's also possible he's just clueless and doesn't know what is and isn't appropriate to blurt out to someone after only a couple of dates.
Yes it's a INDIRECT REJECTION because why would they need to tell that to someone who they really like? It's like going on a job interview and being told......."we are interviewing other people" which is a indirect way of saying YOU ARE NOT THE PERSON I"M LOOKING FOR
It's obvious that relatively attractive young single (not in a serious relationship) people who have things going for them are dating multiple people, or at least have the option to if they so choose. I think that's what she's saying. It's usually assumed there is no commitment until that is discussed.
I don't always think honesty is the best policy at times. But everyone has different opinions and POV's and I respect all of them. I thought this was an interesting topic to bring up and the answers that I'm getting are interesting as well.
It's obvious that relatively attractive young single (not in a serious relationship) people who have things going for them are dating multiple people, or at least have the option to if they so choose. I think that's what she's saying. It's usually assumed there is no commitment until that is discussed.
What does any of that have to do with anything? I know people who are attractive, unattractive, make 6 figures and make middle 5 figure salaries. If someone is going to date multiple people, they will, regardless if they're attractive or not. Heck, my BIL is in his 50's and he's constantly dating multiple women and he doesn't tell them.
What does any of that have to do with anything? I know people who are attractive, unattractive, make 6 figures and make middle 5 figure salaries. If someone is going to date multiple people, they will, regardless if they're attractive or not.
I agree, somewhat, and probably should have left that part out so as not to distract from the point. Surely you recognize that some people have more opportunities than others, though. Some people can't even find one person to date them, let alone multiples.
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