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I am a man who ended up having a nice chat with a woman in the grocery store the other day and when I was talking to her, I noticed her blushing quite a bit so I was getting what I thought was a sign of interest from her. I made a flirtatious comment and her face got even more red but then she suddenly walked away mid-conversation. At that point I thought there were two possibilities as to what happened, either:
1) she just wasn't interested and that is why she walked away or..
2) she was becoming interested/attracted but the sexual tension got a little uncomfortable for her so she walked away.
Unfortunately, I made the mistake of just assuming #1 - that she wasn't interested and didn't approach her again when I saw her in the next aisle over but in retrospect I'm wondering if maybe I should have given her a few minutes and then approached her a 2nd time asking for her # or email address?
What do you guys/gals think?
Dude, she was probably married or had a bf. Better luck next time.
Wouldn't have hurt to ask , nothing to lose. But I would think (based on my own way of interacting , everyone is different.) that she walked away from you because she wanted to get away. So likely she would have turned you down. But you still had nothing to lose.
Very similar scenario happened to me recently. The guy thought he had me because I blushed and walked away too. (Mutual friends told me.) So next time he saw me, he started up some conversation and I could see where he was trying to go with it (though mutual friends advised him I was not interested.) so I told him not to go there. and I walked away again.
Still I think it's interesting he had the confidence to approach me in the first place. Most women find confidence very attractive. In this case, it's not enough for me to consider him but you've got to have the confidence (both men and women) to go after what you want. What have you got to lose? And you will gain experience. Probably some confidence too if you look at it as a confidence building thing rather than focus on rejection.
I am learning us ladies have to be subtle (and I gave this man no signals what-so-ever that I would welcome an approach) when interested and blunt when not.
Wouldn't have hurt to ask , nothing to lose. But I would think (based on my own way of interacting , everyone is different.) that she walked away from you because she wanted to get away. So likely she would have turned you down. But you still had nothing to lose.
Very similar scenario happened to me recently. The guy thought he had me because I blushed and walked away too. (Mutual friends told me.) So next time he saw me, he started up some conversation and I could see where he was trying to go with it (though mutual friends advised him I was not interested.) so I told him not to go there. and I walked away again.
Still I think it's interesting he had the confidence to approach me in the first place. Most women find confidence very attractive. In this case, it's not enough for me to consider him but you've got to have the confidence (both men and women) to go after what you want. What have you got to lose? And you will gain experience. Probably some confidence too if you look at it as a confidence building thing rather than focus on rejection.
I am learning us ladies have to be subtle (and I gave this man no signals what-so-ever that I would welcome an approach) when interested and blunt when not.
Because they don't want to put it out there that they are interested just in case the guy is not which would have them looking foolish and a blow to their self esteem
Wouldn't have hurt to ask , nothing to lose. But I would think (based on my own way of interacting , everyone is different.) that she walked away from you because she wanted to get away. So likely she would have turned you down. But you still had nothing to lose.
Very similar scenario happened to me recently. The guy thought he had me because I blushed and walked away too. (Mutual friends told me.) So next time he saw me, he started up some conversation and I could see where he was trying to go with it (though mutual friends advised him I was not interested.) so I told him not to go there. and I walked away again.
Still I think it's interesting he had the confidence to approach me in the first place. Most women find confidence very attractive. In this case, it's not enough for me to consider him but you've got to have the confidence (both men and women) to go after what you want. What have you got to lose? And you will gain experience. Probably some confidence too if you look at it as a confidence building thing rather than focus on rejection.
I am learning us ladies have to be subtle (and I gave this man no signals what-so-ever that I would welcome an approach) when interested and blunt when not.
It is not non confidence what hold us beck, nor be scared. We do not se purpose if we know answer. Who need confidence to approach women.
OP, What exactly did you say re the flirtatious comment? reason I ask its a key point in answering your queries.
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and I walked away again.
