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Old 06-08-2013, 12:50 PM
 
Location: NYC
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I'm in a situation right now where my best friend just entered a new relationship with a guy that she met a month ago. My best friend's friend (well our friend) owns a home and just rented her basement to my best friend's boyfriend a month ago. So now my best friend slowly started moving her stuff in his apt and they see each other all the time.

My issue is now that every time we hang out and have a girls night out my best friend brings her boyfriend all the time. I know that it's a new relationship and they are going thru the honeymoon stage but all couples need space once in a while. I mean even if all us girls decide to go to the hair and nail salon she got to bring him. I could deal with my friend with this issue by talking to her and giving her time to let her honeymoon stage fade but on the flipside of this how could a guy not feel comfortable being around girls 24/7??? Shouldn't he have friends of his own to play sports, drink and hangout with? I don't understand why he would enjoy being around us all the time. I'm starting to feel uncomfortable.
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Old 06-08-2013, 12:53 PM
 
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She might be hanging out with him & his friends too.
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Old 06-08-2013, 12:58 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Not really because both of them are around our group of [girl] friends all the time. It's to the point where I'm starting to think that he has no friends.
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Old 06-09-2013, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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Not really because both of them are around our group of [girl] friends all the time. It's to the point where I'm starting to think that he has no friends.
He might not. I met my ex-wife within a month of moving here. Her friends became my friends. I made some of my own, but after the divorce I pretty much started from scratch; luckily I was in college at the time.
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Old 06-09-2013, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I'm in a situation right now where my best friend just entered a new relationship with a guy that she met a month ago. My best friend's friend (well our friend) owns a home and just rented her basement to my best friend's boyfriend a month ago. So now my best friend slowly started moving her stuff in his apt and they see each other all the time.

My issue is now that every time we hang out and have a girls night out my best friend brings her boyfriend all the time. I know that it's a new relationship and they are going thru the honeymoon stage but all couples need space once in a while. I mean even if all us girls decide to go to the hair and nail salon she got to bring him. I could deal with my friend with this issue by talking to her and giving her time to let her honeymoon stage fade but on the flipside of this how could a guy not feel comfortable being around girls 24/7??? Shouldn't he have friends of his own to play sports, drink and hangout with? I don't understand why he would enjoy being around us all the time. I'm starting to feel uncomfortable.

I don't know, I know when my gf asks me to do that stuff I politely decline and go do my own thing. I have wondered thouse things too, how could a guy even want to do that?
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Old 06-09-2013, 09:27 PM
 
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I have a friend whose partner also comes everywhere.

These folks will not see 50 again.

His problem is a familiar one - control.

Not being able to let her go out without him is controlling and abusive.

Your friend is probably young and flattered but this is how stalkers start.
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Old 06-09-2013, 09:30 PM
 
Location: southern california
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maintaining your friends when u fall in love is healthy
tossing all for your partner sounds romantic but falls short of healthy.
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