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From what I understand everybody desires some kind of close human contact unless you are a Sociopath or have Abandonment issues. The quantity/duration and who provides the contact is what varies person to person.
From what I understand everybody desires some kind of close human contact unless you are a Sociopath or have Abandonment issues. The quantity/duration and who provides the contact is what varies person to person.
Count me as a sociopath then. In my will, I've designated a certain human extinction organization to benefit financially from me in the event of my death.
Count me as a sociopath then. In my will, I've designated a certain human extinction organization to benefit financially from me in the event of my death.
Are you really a Sociopath?! I'm sure there are any number of other reasons to not desire human contact but only you would know.
I honestly don't know if I could be in a LTR with a woman that didn't cuddle. If everything else was really good, than probably, but for me there is a correlation between how well a relationship is going and how much cuddling. More cuddling equals better relationship IMO. Of course, some people like to cuddle, so lots of cuddling doesn't always equal good relationship.
That's how I see it. I knew that something was up when morning rolled around and he'd jump out of bed and start his day. When the cuddling stopped the relationship was on a slippery slope. (Well, okay even before that, but he made it obvious.)
You're all reading too much into this. It's the "touchy feely gene", the majority of females have it and the majority of guys do not. Just because a guy cuddles after sex doesn't mean he's into it; he could doing it as a thank you gesture or has the feeling that if he doesn't cuddle with you now it decreases his odds of having sex with you next time. You gals can usually identify these guys very early by observing how he interacts with people and if he's touching his friends.
I went out on a few dates last summer with a man who was totally into cuddling and that's all he wanted to do for the most part and he was a pan-cuddler (made that word up) which means he loved to cuddle with anyone and everyone. I decided not to continue dating him but before I stopped, he asked to spend the night one night. I wasn't ready for the dirty deed with him so I told him that only if he wouldn't pressure me for sex, which he promised not to do. Oh Lord what a night--he wrapped himself around me like a pretzel and never let go. He'd start to snore so I'd try to work myself out of the embrace but he would just hold on tighter. Finally I got up "to go to the bathroom" but really ended up on the couch and I swear, he came and got me! That was one long night and I don't think I could be with someone like that. I do love to cuddle but not to that extent.
I love cuddling especially with the man I love.
I love giving massages to my parents, my brothers, my sister. I love hugging my nephews. I just am a very physical person.
Cuddling sometimes is even better than mind blowing sex. It is so intimate.
Exactly this. There is no "trying" to be good, there is no "hoping" that you'll satisfy the other person, there is no pressure to do or be or have or want. There is just snuggling. I used to just hold him and soak it all in. I called it "savoring" him.
"If I just lay here, would you lie with me and just forget the world?"
I went out on a few dates last summer with a man who was totally into cuddling and that's all he wanted to do for the most part and he was a pan-cuddler (made that word up) which means he loved to cuddle with anyone and everyone. I decided not to continue dating him but before I stopped, he asked to spend the night one night. I wasn't ready for the dirty deed with him so I told him that only if he wouldn't pressure me for sex, which he promised not to do. Oh Lord what a night--he wrapped himself around me like a pretzel and never let go. He'd start to snore so I'd try to work myself out of the embrace but he would just hold on tighter. Finally I got up "to go to the bathroom" but really ended up on the couch and I swear, he came and got me! That was one long night and I don't think I could be with someone like that. I do love to cuddle but not to that extent.
This sounds very close to what I experienced, it didnt even make me feel special, I remember thinking he would probably cuddle any woman that way.
I went out on a few dates last summer with a man who was totally into cuddling and that's all he wanted to do for the most part and he was a pan-cuddler (made that word up) which means he loved to cuddle with anyone and everyone. I decided not to continue dating him but before I stopped, he asked to spend the night one night. I wasn't ready for the dirty deed with him so I told him that only if he wouldn't pressure me for sex, which he promised not to do. Oh Lord what a night--he wrapped himself around me like a pretzel and never let go. He'd start to snore so I'd try to work myself out of the embrace but he would just hold on tighter. Finally I got up "to go to the bathroom" but really ended up on the couch and I swear, he came and got me! That was one long night and I don't think I could be with someone like that. I do love to cuddle but not to that extent.
HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA, HA
I'm sorry. I'm not laughing at you, but that is just too darned funny. Maybe he lost his teddy bear.
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