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Well, is that true? Or does some part of you fear it might be true? Or is it simply that you only want sex in this situation? Do you trust your own self-knowledge? Or do you worry that you might be deluding yourself?
No deluding here, I did NOT want a steady boyfriend at that time and was not looking for anyone to provide anything but sex, nothing more. Five years after it started I was ready to start seeking a long term relationship with one man and I found that man and have been with him for 10 years now.
If you cannot trust your own self knowledge what would make you think you could trust someone else's knowledge of you?
Even though I'm still not convinced that they're 100% effective.
Sounds like you made up your mind.
Lucky guy........
Haven't really. Plus anything can happen. I will only suggest meeting for a drink. Someone will get lucky though, I am going to have sex in 2013. lol. My hesitation is I really would rather do that in a LTR so in the end I may be likely to hold out for that. This guy is not right for a relationship with me.
Haven't really. Plus anything can happen. I will only suggest meeting for a drink. Someone will get lucky though, I am going to have sex in 2013. lol. My hesitation is I really would rather do that in a LTR so in the end I may be likely to hold out for that. This guy is not right for a relationship with me.
2013?
Set the bar higher and shoot for 12 times before Labor Day.
Set the bar higher and shoot for 12 times before Labor Day.
May be slim pickins on New Year's Eve.
LOL, the sooner I get into a relationship the more sex there will be.
I think I've got to keep my standards where they are supposed to be and not get sidetracked.
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LOL, the sooner I get into a relationship the more sex there will be.
I think I've got to keep my standards where they are supposed to be and not get sidetracked.
No.
The sooner that you give it up.....the sooner you will be in a relationship.
Go ahead. Grab those toes and bang the young stud. You'll feel better.
Consider this. I met a married gal a long time ago....I was single at the time.....quite attractive brunette.
We were talking at the bar and she explained to me that when she was single.....she just wanted to be serviced. She would be serviced at her home, then she simply told the stud:
"Time for you to leave."
Now, we don't want this thing to turn into a "Mr. Goodbar" scenario, but with careful preparedness, one could use the marital status in a very good way.
I always respected the hell out of "Peggy", not because she was so truthful and blunt....but one hell of a martial artist.
Can I be honest with you? From what I have read of your posts, IMHO, you will not be able to do this w/o feeling something (resentment, guilt, regret, etc) and mostly towards yourself, not him.
I am one of the few women who can have FWB (yes, real FWB's) and not want the r'ship to be anything more than a friendship (and yes, we totally hang out as friends and sometimes, we don't even have sex ). In fact, most of the men I've been with are the ones who change their minds.
There are too many things you said, that yell RED FLAG to me. They're things a lot of my gf's would say, right before they'd get involved in a FWB situation and then cry about it all later cuz the guy broke their heart because they didn't want a r'ship (which the women didn't want in the first place, but sex became too emotional for them and they created too many ties).
So, my advice, don't do it. Find a guy you like and want a r'ship with. You just don't seem the type and although it can be fun, it can also be so not fun when you end up hating yourself for doing it. BTW, IMHO, it's not a "gotta try it, to know if I can do it" bit. Most people I know who can truly do it, they've known from the first few times they've ever had sex that they can do it. And most people I know who have "tried" get burned.
Just my two cents. I'd hate to see you feel bad about yourself. Stay true to your roots. If that doesn't work, go buy some toys.
I worry I'm not as evolved as you. I believe it comes natural to men to compartmentalize sex more so that it does for women. That is why I think this guy has potential. Intelligence and maturity are usually things I want in a mate. It is obvious he is younger than me personality wise. If someone doesn't turn me on personality wise, it is hard for me to fall in love.
Separating emotion from sex has nothing to do with "being evolved". Seriously, don't EVEN think like that.
Separating emotion from sex has nothing to do with "being evolved". Seriously, don't EVEN think like that.
What does it have to do with? I think it's seeing things as it is. A physical act.
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). In fact, most of the men I've been with are the ones who change their minds.
