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For those whose spouses are stay at home raising children what are your expectations?
Do you:
- Not have any expectations besides attending to your children? In this case it is assumed you participate 50/50 in all household chores besides working fulltime?
- Have expectations to take care of household chores (basic cleaning, grocery shopping etc.)?
- Have expectations that he/she cook lunch/dinner for you?
What if your stay at home spouse wanted to hire a nanny? OR hire a maid to do the cleaning? Would that be acceptable to you?
Depends how big is the house, how many kids and the lifestyle demands. This could be more than a full time job. She might need some help, from the husband or hired staff.
For those whose spouses are stay at home raising children what are your expectations?
Do you:
- Not have any expectations besides attending to your children? In this case it is assumed you participate 50/50 in all household chores besides working fulltime?
- Have expectations to take care of household chores (basic cleaning, grocery shopping etc.)?
- Have expectations that he/she cook lunch/dinner for you?
What if your stay at home spouse wanted to hire a nanny? OR hire a maid to do the cleaning? Would that be acceptable to you?
The biggest and most important role for my wife is attending to our kids. Everything else such as cooking and cleaning is negotiable. She generally does most housework, though there are parts of the house that I just do myself. Cooking depends more on what we want to have. We grill a lot and on those nights I take the lead on dinner.
Depends how big is the house, how many kids and the lifestyle demands. This could be more than a full time job. She might need some help, from the husband or hired staff.
I agree with this. It really depends on how many kids and their ages, size of the home....etc. What other commitments does the parent that stays home have (does s/he watch other children, volunteer at the school...etc).
If the expectation is that all chores are done and dinner is on the table, but she has a few very young children...it's doable but it's exhausting.
What is the work out of the home parent willing to do when s/he gets home from work? Is this person going to sit on their ass and relax or pitch in and help out?
That's for each couple to decide on their own. We have a smallish house and we are not wealthy. Even if I wanted outside help - we couldn't afford it! I stay at home, take care of our son, take care of most of the housework, all the cooking, shopping, etc. My husband is awesome and pitches in when he can.
For those whose spouses are stay at home raising children what are your expectations?
Do you:
- Not have any expectations besides attending to your children? In this case it is assumed you participate 50/50 in all household chores besides working fulltime?
- Have expectations to take care of household chores (basic cleaning, grocery shopping etc.)?
- Have expectations that he/she cook lunch/dinner for you?
What if your stay at home spouse wanted to hire a nanny? OR hire a maid to do the cleaning? Would that be acceptable to you?
I will most likely stay home as a parent, in my particular situation, at least initially.
Maintaining a clean, tidy, and organized house is everyone who lives there's responsibility...this doesn't change due to the presence/absence of kids, or the presence/absence of full-time employment. Tasks get divided in whatever way works best for the parties involved. I'm probably not mowing the lawn when home by myself, with small children, etc.
If I'm not working full-time, I'm def. doing the grocery shopping. The best, fastest time in the world to grocery shop is when most people are at 9-5 jobs during the week. Meal prep for the whole family would be, as it is now, based on who has the time and desire to do it at a given time.
If I'm staying home to parent, hiring a nanny is antithetical to the reason for my staying home. I generally view hiring out for housekeeping as unnecessary, as well.
I think in some ways, the stay at home spouse might have it tougher, especially if you got 2 or 3 kids. There was some study somewhere that put a cost for all of the "services" that are perfomed in the home, such as day care, cleaning, cooking etc etc, and the costs were really high. I mean prohibitively high for the average person, this is assuming you "outsourced" all the needs.
I think also that the stay at home spouse puts in more than a standard 8 hour day...
I don't know, there are a lot of factors to consider.
I do think however, lets assume the wife stays at home to be a stay at home wife, that it just makes sense, from just a purely financial point of view, not to mention I'm a big fan of family raising family not daycare, I understand some people have to do it, but IDK... I think a lot of times people don't want to "sacrifice" the second income. The thing is that a lot of times after you factor day care, clothes, lunches out, gas, car maintence, etc etc it makes more sense for one spouse to stay at home. Not always, but a lot of times.
Why would any woman need to hire a nanny if she is a SAHM? Does she have 25 kids and a 15000 sq ft home? Or would she rather go shopping all day, watching day soaps while eating potato chips on the coach. If youre a SAHM or SAHD, take care of your kids and the house. Not like its really that hard at all, with just a lil bit of an effort.
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