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I have been dating this guy for the past few months and right off the bat he made it clear that if the relationship didn't involve sex, then he wasn't going to stick around. Thinking back, that should have been a red flag right there....
I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to relationships and sex, but i enjoy sex. Everytime he comes over, which is a few days a week, we have sex and everything is fine. But the few times I'm not in the mood or too tired and don't want to do it, he gets pretty upset and leaves right away. Obviously this makes me feel ****ty and I have no idea if everytime he leaves it means we're broken up or what. I'm just left confused, hurt and in tears.
My instincts are telling me that this isn't "normal" behavior for someone who's in it for more then just sex. But I could be wrong. Like I said i'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to this.
Is sex really that important? Should I just do it even when I'm not in the mood just to keep him happy? Is it ok if I don't want to and he does?
Any type of pressure or ultimatum is a big, red flag to me.
He uses you for sex, obviously. Without sex nothing is going on. There is no relationship.
As soon he gets tired of you, he will drop you like a hot potato. With no regrets.
Depends what you want, you need to make a decision.
If this guy is making you feel guilty for not having sex, bail out while you're still ahead. His behavior is manipulative and controlling. He is in it for the sex and if he doesn't get his way he will not be happy. He sounds like a child.
Sex is important, no doubt about it. But it is important to be on the same page. If you're always the one giving in simply to avoid him being in a bad mood, you are not in a healthy relationship. There are times when he needs to give in and respect when you are not in the mood. If he can't do this, he is not cut out for a long term relationship and in the long run you are better off without him.
I have been dating this guy for the past few months and right off the bat he made it clear that if the relationship didn't involve sex, then he wasn't going to stick around. Thinking back, that should have been a red flag right there....
I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to relationships and sex, but i enjoy sex. Everytime he comes over, which is a few days a week, we have sex and everything is fine. But the few times I'm not in the mood or too tired and don't want to do it, he gets pretty upset and leaves right away. Obviously this makes me feel ****ty and I have no idea if everytime he leaves it means we're broken up or what. I'm just left confused, hurt and in tears.
My instincts are telling me that this isn't "normal" behavior for someone who's in it for more then just sex. But I could be wrong. Like I said i'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to this.
Is sex really that important? Should I just do it even when I'm not in the mood just to keep him happy? Is it ok if I don't want to and he does?
I have been dating this guy for the past few months and right off the bat he made it clear that if the relationship didn't involve sex, then he wasn't going to stick around. Thinking back, that should have been a red flag right there....
I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to relationships and sex, but i enjoy sex. Everytime he comes over, which is a few days a week, we have sex and everything is fine. But the few times I'm not in the mood or too tired and don't want to do it, he gets pretty upset and leaves right away. Obviously this makes me feel ****ty and I have no idea if everytime he leaves it means we're broken up or what. I'm just left confused, hurt and in tears.
My instincts are telling me that this isn't "normal" behavior for someone who's in it for more then just sex. But I could be wrong. Like I said i'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to this.
Is sex really that important? Should I just do it even when I'm not in the mood just to keep him happy? Is it ok if I don't want to and he does?
Thoughts please
Oh good LORD. Dump him. He is doing nothing more that using you. How can you not see that?
I have been dating this guy for the past few months and right off the bat he made it clear that if the relationship didn't involve sex, then he wasn't going to stick around. Thinking back, that should have been a red flag right there....
I'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to relationships and sex, but i enjoy sex. Everytime he comes over, which is a few days a week, we have sex and everything is fine. But the few times I'm not in the mood or too tired and don't want to do it, he gets pretty upset and leaves right away. Obviously this makes me feel ****ty and I have no idea if everytime he leaves it means we're broken up or what. I'm just left confused, hurt and in tears.
My instincts are telling me that this isn't "normal" behavior for someone who's in it for more then just sex. But I could be wrong. Like I said i'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to this.
Is sex really that important? Should I just do it even when I'm not in the mood just to keep him happy? Is it ok if I don't want to and he does?
Thoughts please
Sex is extremely important.
Unfortunately, we live in an extremely sex-negative culture that tell us sex is trivial, that "emotional connection" is all that really matters.
Rubbish!!
We are risen apes, not fallen angels. For the vast majority of men, sex is a basic human drive that must be satisfied if we are to remain psychologically and emotionally healthy. The fact your man wants sex all the time proves is human, not that he is using you!
That said, he should be more sensitive to the fact you may not want to have sex occasionally. If you are normally sexually receptive, he shouldn't complain if he doesn't get it occasionally.
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