do u ever feel like just giving up and resigning to the fact that you will indeed be forever alone?
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I haven't read all the posts in this thread but if I needed a mate I would go to those places where there were mutual interests and there are single people. I would not be going to the bars and although I never used dating services I don't really think that highly of them.
Sometimes a person is trying too hard and that is the problem. If a person has a pleasing personality, keeps themself in decent physical shape, opportunities will arise somewhere along the road. I've been married for 40 years and it "just happened" and we both knew it. Sometimes it might even be your best friend of the opposite sex. Someone you are comfortable with. As far as ''true" love and lust, that's all fine and good but it is unlikely to last forever. I suspect most of us live rather humdrum lives. And I don't envy those with great wealth who have more than they could spend in 10 lifetimes. In the end it won't matter anyway because we can't take it with us.
Look around. Who are you friends with? You might already be communicating with the person you will live the rest of your life with. There is really no ideal person out there who will be a perfect fit. Go about your life in a normal manner, avoid the bar scenes and that sort of thing. You might look at your local "Y" as it caters to both sexes. There is a common interest just by being there. Good luck.
Wait...so you receive a ton of messages but none of those women are good enough for you?
So you're actively choosing to be 'forever alone'.
You have options, you just don't like them.
Looking back at the OP's posting history I'm thinking its either a gay or bi man or a hetero woman. So we shouldn't assume he/she is messaging just women or women at all.
Looking back at the OP's posting history I'm thinking its either a gay, or bi man or a hetero woman. So we shouldn't assume he/she is messaging just women or women at all.
Ah, gotcha.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
OP still hasn't answered this question about why he's "ugh!" about the messages he gets.
Lemme take a stab at it...they're all fat single mothers!!!
Not really. How can you say you'll be alone forever? You really never know what the future will bring. You might meet someone tomorrow while getting your morning coffee. I haven't been on a date or had a single romantic interest for almost 8 months now, but I'm okay with it. I'm not really choosing to be alone, but it's just the way life is right now and I'm okay with that. I don't want to be feel miserable about it, nor do I want to totally close myself off the possibility that it might happen.
I haven't given up, exactly, but I haven't been trying for the past few years either. Of course I don't want to be 'forever alone', but dating has become such a grind that there's no joy in it anymore. I guess I've just gotten used to being single.
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it for now. I don't really care if I find love or not.
