Is this married friend interested?

[cindersslipper]

Originally Posted by Nineten

You didn't see my prior post. I am happily married and agree in that marriage is for life. I'm trying to figure out if I'm overreacting or if I should end the friendship.

That's the choice?

Why don't you just act like you're overreacting, and continue the friendship in pretended ignorance?

She'll get the hint very soon, most women are very sensitive to rejection. Doubly so if she is in an unhappy marriage, I would imagine.

Good for you for loving your wife and staying faithful....not so good for ending friendships over small misunderstandings.

[Kin Atoms]

Run, don't walk. Your gut questioned, you are slipping into inquiry land (posting on C-D), and you may be entertaining too many thoughts. Your instincts should win. Don't play mind games with yourself. I wouldn't just ratchet down, I would bow out, saying you have many commitments and your job and life just got busier. If you captured her heart, she may capture something else in the 3D live experience.

Women can do this (bow out) every day of the week, and it is OK. Men should not see anything less than chivalrous (to their current partners) to do just this. Make excuses, many excuses, have your wife start meeting you for lunch or vice versa, and take the emotional transfer to the city of Gone.

Race, culture, it don't matter. There is a male-female thing going on here and you need to remove yourself from this equation. Your feelings for your virtue and your wife will trump her sadness for your parting. And no explanations are needed beyond what is stated. Would she argue with you why if you said you would continue? Then don't argue why when you say you can't continue. And just keep walking.

[devilkingx2]

Originally Posted by Nineten

Sorry if I come off as naive, but I don't have much experience with women and am clueless on signs and signals.

if this is true, you should not be married.

marriage is for those experienced with women, it's harder to get screwed over if you know what you're doing.

Originally Posted by Nineten

I should be more clear. I have no intention of cheating. I value her friendship, but if this is a crush or somthing more serious, I'm terminating the friendship. I think the advice to dial back the lunches is good advice.

how about you just talk to her, you cannot possibly value the friendship but be willing to casually drop her without even saying a word to her.

it does sound like shes flirting with you, but we don't know your dynamic or the context

she could've been high, she could've been drunk, she could've mis-texted you and meant to send that to her husband, she could've just been being friendly and now you're on here overreacting

some women wouldn't say something like that unless they were madly in love with you, other women are friendly and warm.

Originally Posted by Nineten

She's actually a very attractive Latina woman.

this statement is redundant, just say latina woman

[devilkingx2]

Originally Posted by funymann

She likes "lunch" with him.

Lunch huh?

off-topic: are you in the band hollywood undead?

[hawaiiancoconut]

Originally Posted by Nineten

Is this married friend interested?

Why don't you ask your wife?^

C'mon now, man, who you trying to fool here.