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Old 08-16-2013, 12:34 PM
 
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First, I am not really sure that this is the correct place to post this. But looking for any advise possible.

I moved out of my home, leaving my soon to be ex-wife on April 29th. She went to family court and put a restraining order on me. Stating that she feared for her life, that I left without notice, that I abandoned my animals, and much more.

My stupid a** did not stay at court, I left before it started due to bad legal advise.

In regards to what she stated on the restraining order it is all false. She knew I was moving out-I have text messages telling her that I have already moved my things out, and she replied thank you and have a good life.

She did not tell the judge that she already had a new live in partner that moved in the same day I moved out.

She did not tell the judge that I continuously posted things on FB and other sites to find my animals home, and each time she would put a response on their stating the animals where not going anywhere.

She told the judge that she was scared for her life. She knows she has no reason to fear me. That once I made the choice to leave her that, that would be it. She is the one who continuously stalked me and followed me. Her and her girlfriend continue to harrass me.

Is there anything I can do to get the restraining order altered so I dont have to pay half of their rent, or go to court ordered domestic violence classes.

Help!
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Old 08-16-2013, 12:56 PM
 
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But looking for any advise possible.
Help!
contact an attorney
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Old 08-16-2013, 02:52 PM
 
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You were given your day in court yet you didn't show up. Why not? You should have argued against it back then. Contacting an attorney is a good idea but you are probably stuck with it until it expires. Well deserved in my opinion, unless you were hit by a bus on the way to court.
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Old 08-16-2013, 02:58 PM
 
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There was someone on here that had a woman mentally evaluated.

Call the mental hospital and say she is unstable and a threat to herself and others.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:00 PM
 
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contact an attorney
This is the only thing you can do. If you do have documentation of what you say, then maybe you can contest the order. You can't expect your ex to plead your case when you don't show up to court.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:28 PM
 
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I could not show up for court because my supervisor refused to give me the day off and my boss was out of town on business. The only reason why. And I have documented proof that everything I have said is fact.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:46 PM
 
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You need a lawyer.

If you have documented proof that she is harassing you, you need to seek a restraining order in return.
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Old 08-16-2013, 05:23 PM
 
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A restraining order prevents you from contacting her or getting near her. It has nothing to do with what you have to pay her in maintenance and is not a criminal conviction.

Never ignore a court date. Ever. Not even for your job. Our society has a legal process for deciding things and you had your chance. See an attorney to see if you have any options now.
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Old 08-16-2013, 10:44 PM
 
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I could not show up for court because my supervisor refused to give me the day off and my boss was out of town on business. The only reason why. And I have documented proof that everything I have said is fact.
I seriously question this.
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Old 08-16-2013, 10:48 PM
 
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Get a good attorney. However, the whole thing sound suspect.
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