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Ha ha, that I am not...but I'm wondering about kind of developing that part of myself...in my family growing up there was no patience for 'girly-ness', it was not advocated...you know, farming country people, who has time for that?
Now as an adult, and sort of preparing myself for the dating world, it seems like men my age would like to date someone with finesse not someone who knows how to skip rocks at least 6 times.
Also, I LOOK like a country girl, I'm having a hard time justifying the expense of getting my hair and nails done, or wearing high heels.
Unlike some country girls I have done a lot to educate myself, become aware of the big picture, cultural social issues, art and humanities, psychology and philosophy. I don't usually talk with a country drawl-unless I happen to be talking to someone else with one.
In short, help me to get over my country-ness, give me advice on how to achieve the look, and attitude of someone who doesn't turn into a big kid when she meets dogs.
Yes, its true, I am a country girl at heart, and I live in a place where that isn't appreciated, I have to do some modifications and now seems like a good time to start...I think I'm going to try the dating scene next year.
If you are attractive and cute you can pull off 'country girl' with any normal man. If you are average like the bulk of us a little brushing off goes a long ways!
Develop your own sense of style, one you are comfortable with and if people can't accept you then that's their loss. If you stay true to yourself I'm sure you'll meet wonderful people who will love you for you
In fact, letting some of the country girl out would be appealing. Just don't let them take advantage of you because they think you won't know any better.
Don't pretend to be someone you're not just to get a guy interested in you, you'll only wind up being incompatible in the long run. There are plenty of guys out there who would see your educated, low-maintenance, down-to-earth, girl-next-door image as very desirable. Hairs and nails and shoes are not what a guy really looks for in a girl - I only get my hair and nails done for very special occasions and I never had a problem with getting guys interested in me (and now I'm married). And as for shoes - flats are still in style at the moment! You don't need heels to be feminine.
Maybe the guys in your area just aren't the type of guys to appreciate an enlightened, down-to-earth girl. Without wishing to insult the people in your town, it sounds like you simply have more class than most of the people there. If being feminine in your area means looking like Joy in My Name Is Earl, you're better off the way you are now! Start looking for a guy outside your town who might be more likely to appreciate your qualities.
Of course, there's nothing wrong with exploring a more feminine side of yourself, especially if you feel it was suppressed by your family growing up. But don't force it and don't just copy the women around you - discover your own feminine style.
I like the responses, I do want to be true to myself, I haven't dated in a long time, and like a lot of things about myself, I hope to find someone who is somewhat like me, at least appreciates the things about me that I identify as core values.
If I put up a picture I'm sure people would have more suggestions about how to do my hair, or style suggestions, I am a little shy of being nit-picked though.
I was wondering if anyone has any book or online suggestions?
I like the responses, I do want to be true to myself, I haven't dated in a long time, and like a lot of things about myself, I hope to find someone who is somewhat like me, at least appreciates the things about me that I identify as core values.
If I put up a picture I'm sure people would have more suggestions about how to do my hair, or style suggestions, I am a little shy of being nit-picked though.
I was wondering if anyone has any book or online suggestions?
I can appreciate what you are trying to accomplish, and good for you for wanting to put your best foot forward as you re-enter the dating world
I suggest you start with hair and makeup.
Look through hair magazines until you find a few styles that appeal to you. Take the pics with you to a a hair dresser someone you trust can recommend. Ask for her opinion about which style might look best with your type of hair.
Then visit a Merle Norman or even a dept store makeup counter and get some help with understanding how to enhance your eyes in particular. A little makeup goes a long way, but knowing how to use it effectively takes you even further
Thanks for the suggestion! I will try out the dept. store makeup thing, and researching new looks.
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