Why do I get rejected all the time? (dating, girlfriend, married)
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I'm 23 and as far as I can remember, I've always been rejected by guys. They ask me out and then they always end up disappearing/stringing me along before the first date. Why do they bother asking me out then? I don't even make the first move, and I always end up being rejected.
Therefore, my track record has really affected my self-esteem. I was bullied in school so this situation isn't helping. I feel as though I'm not good enough/pretty enough (pics of my profile). I want to be someone's priority but I always end up being someone's option. Guys never seem to be genuinely interested in me.
I'm doing a dual law agree so I'm not totally dumb. I'm always as sweet as I can be because I hate hurting people/making them feel inadequate. I don't have high standards by any means because I usually am attracted to all types of guys regardless of their appearance/job. These things don't matter to me.
Yes, I'm not a social butterfly. I'm more of a mellow/sweet type of girl, but I'm quite talkative and bubbly.
I'm not desperate but I hate to show my feelings, so I always try to take things lightly.
I feel so lonely. All of my friends are paired up, and I'm here all alone.
What am I doing wrong? I need some help.
Thank you.
Last edited by NolitaAvenue; 08-24-2013 at 01:35 PM..
1) don't do online dating, period.
2) let guys approach you first. The ones who are interested enough (key word: enough) will.
3) when you meet a guy, take it easy and don't get ahead of yourself. Keep dating others until you are committed.
That online dating scenario was an exception. I usually don't do online dating but I wanted to give it a shot, since I don't have time to meet people outside of college. I've since deleted my account because I realized it was not working for me.
The problem is that guys never approach me. Never.
Dear God, I'm not a troll. You do realize that people can have issues. I can't believe people would think I'm a troll.
I'm already feeling really bad about myself, I'm just seeking help here, just like any other person.
I don't have many friends that I can confide in, so I have to turn to strangers.
Ummm, seriously. Is that really a pic of you in your album titled "me"?
Cuz I smell a troll here. That chick aint getting rejected.
I called it "Me" just for the sake of this topic (yes that's me). I'm going to take my picture down later.
I just thought that by calling it "me" people would be honest about how I look, and if that's the reason why I'm getting rejected.
I've always been insecure regarding my appearance because as I said, I was bullied in school/at home.
I don't see what some people think I see. I've been to therapy and nothing changed.
I still despise the way I look no matter how much make up I have on. I still cry everyday wishing I was someone else.
Trust me, I wish I were trolling right now. My life would be much easier.
I get approached by men often, and can now get up to 4 or 5 dates. But no one sticks around longer than that is willing to commit to me. I always get the "not ready for a relationship" talk or the fade. This has happened again and again and again after dating for 8 years, and like you it's taken a toll on my self esteem and I kinda have abandonment issues now.
I feel like I have a lot of nice things to offer a man. I make a great girlfriend, I'm constantly told how beautiful I am, but none are willing to take it.
All of my friends are paired off and married, but I'm chronically single. I've gotten to the point where I stop mentioning anyone I'm dating, and go to great lengths to hide the guy, because my friends and family get excited for me but inevitably I get dumped which is always humiliating.
So anyway, yeah I know how you feel and can empathize. I don't know what to say to you though. People always say it'll get better and the right person will come, but it hasn't for me in 8 years.
I will say that these 8 years I primarily meet men online since I form from home it's been the easiest way for me to date. Maybe that has something to do with it? I know 3 friends who are in LTR from online dating so I'd hoped it'd work for me, but maybe I'm just not that lucky.
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