Did I just get rejected? (dating, boyfriend, woman, love)
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So just a quick backstory. I work with this one girl, and we've been good friends now for over two years. It's actually kind of gross how cute we are together (always making each other laugh like there's an inside joke we only get, constantly going and eating lunch together, IMing each other all day long, taking our laptops into a conference room and working in there alone together for the day). In the time I've known her, she's never had a boyfriend, and while she was interested in this other guy for awhile, she claimed she was over it because he never made any sort of move (and I heard this second hand from a mutual friend, this is never something she discussed with me).
Anyways, yesterday I tried coming out with how I felt. She loves that "Would You Rather" game, so I asked her if she'd want to maintain our friendship just the way it is now or if she was open to the idea of us dating. I also assured her that no matter how she answered, I'd respect her response and not create any weirdness or whatnot between us.
She looked like she had a very surprised expression on her face, was smiling a lot, but said, "Oh man. I was so not expecting that. I mean.... I don't know. Can I think about it?" I of course said, "Sure," and didn't really pursue the matter any further that day.
So what do you think, is there a chance or am I just waiting for the inevitable?
I'm 30 and she's 28. And also, because I know it's going to come up... while yes, we do both work together, we are also in the process of finding new jobs (which will be happening much sooner than later). And we work in an environment where there are a few people who've hooked up without any issue.
I'm 30 and she's 28. And also, because I know it's going to come up... while yes, we do both work together, we are also in the process of finding new jobs (which will be happening much sooner than later). And we work in an environment where there are a few people who've hooked up without any issue.
Ah, here was your biggest mistake. You may have been better off waiting until one of you found that new job. Then you could've let a couple days go by and called her with the "I missed you and just wanted to get a drink and hang out." Too late for that now. Don't press the matter and maybe it won't come up again. If she's trying to preserve the friendship she's not going to bring it up. Then if you want to try again you can do it the way I've already described.
I mean, we've casually talked about things we did in the past, but it was never really a deep conversation.
It baffles me how she was caught off guard. Another example. She had knee surgery a couple months ago, and had to stay home for a week before she could get back to work. Our work has a very lenient work from home policy, and she asked if I wanted to work from home but hang out with her at her place (and I did).
I was just hoping that maybe, the question did actually catch her off guard, it's something she never really did consider, but now is actually considering it instead of just using it as an excuse to let me down gently.
I mean, we've casually talked about things we did in the past, but it was never really a deep conversation.
It baffles me how she was caught off guard. Another example. She had knee surgery a couple months ago, and had to stay home for a week before she could get back to work. Our work has a very lenient work from home policy, and she asked if I wanted to work from home but hang out with her at her place (and I did).
I was just hoping that maybe, the question did actually catch her off guard, it's something she never really did consider, but now is actually considering it instead of just using it as an excuse to let me down gently.
And it's not possible that she is considering it, but if you have spent this much time alone with her already it would seem she ought to know if she's interested or not, yes?
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It's weird because you waited for two years, it's not the best compliment...it took you two years to figure out you wanted to ask her. Not only that, it seems like it would most likely compromise your work relationship. If you work together in the same department I doubt that would ever work. I could see if you worked for the same company, but in different departments, but not if you have to physically be together all day.
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