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The minute a guy asks for a nude photo of me is the minute he goes into the reject file.
Same goes if he sends an unsolicited nude photo which has happened more times than I can remember.
So a guy is not allowed to ask you for one, yet the only way you'll look at one of his is if you ask for it. Doesn't that seem a bit like a double standard? (You're allowed to ask, but if he does, he gets rejected).
As for me (guy), I'd have to be REALLY comfy to ask for one, and same thing about sending one. And if I ever send one (I have), it will NOT have my face in it. I don't care how good things are today, if they go south, I would not want a naked floating around with MY face on it. My personal feeling is that if it doesn't have my face on it, I'll send it to a perfect stranger. I really don't care if you want to get off to my junk, it doesn't really effect me.
How come guys you're dating always ask for a nude or suggestive pic of you, when they can just look up porn and see a naked hot girl? One of my guy friends said its because its different when you actually know the naked girl in the pic.
I don't ask her unless we are actually a couple. If that is the case then I want to have fun and be intimate with her. Would you rather have him ignore you and look at porn? And yes it is different when you know the person, gives it more of a "real life" meaning.
This is a perfect thread to reflect the differences between the genders. I believe that most men would be thrilled to receive naked pictures of women, and even if they did not find them attractive they wouldn't complain about it they would just discard the photo, yet women have a totally opposite reaction. This is why I am amazed sometimes that people even connect anymore.
In case you didn't realize, the women were talking about virtual strangers asking for naked pics. They also are trying to say that they want to connect in another way first.
Another issue I have with it, is that I don't care to entertain men who just want to sext online or the phone and that's it (they exist). I'm only interested in having something real. No sexting is the only way to separate the wheat from the chaff.
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Originally Posted by bebe182
The last guy I dated, always asked for them in a joking manner (but I knew he meant it), he started asking for them after we were intimate, and I found it kinda flattering even though I never sent him one. He's the only guy I've dated who actually asked for naked pics lol, but like I said I didn't mind it.
I would react the same way with someone I was dating. I'd be flattered that he wanted them but not send any.
Your friend is right. Plus, if it's something you're doing specifically for him, it's much more personal and intimate than professional porn that was done for everyone. It's sort of like asking why women like guys to give them flowers when they could just look at the flowers at public gardens.
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You're entirely right about this. If it was a guy a chick had just met asking for pics I'd understand her being apprehensive. But a woman has a problem giving naked pics to her own lover? She's got body image issues.
How can she ask, "Why doesn't watch porn if he wants to see a woman naked?" It's much more intimate to see a naked picture your lover has given you than a generic picture of a random naked chick.
In any case, I think this is a classic example of women just finding any reason to complain about men. How many countless women are there writing about how "porn ruined their marriage"? I've even seen threads where a woman has said, "I was standing there naked begging him for sex and he wasn't interested." Maybe after all that time when his interest in you sexually was rejected repeatedly he felt porn was a much better use of his energy and time than intimacy with you.
Like someone already said, it could be simply to show off to his friends. More often it's for masturbation and fantasy.
For some reason it doesn't work the opposite way (or so the women will claim officially, you'll never know, read JetJockey's comment, it's a classical response you'll get), but you may argue it's because women have higher standards of what they masturbate to. A topic was out there about "average looks" and unfortunately close to half of the guys fell into rank 1 out of 5 (lowest rank), 80% qualified as being under average grade.
For most guys, if you send them your private parts image (or a teaser image where they can see or they can fantasize about being able to see something they shouldn't), be sure that he'll respond in a "whatever" style, but he'll be aroused with that stranger sending him nude pictures. Lots of guys will spend whole lot of time staring in woman's slit on her skirt, fantasizing that they MIGHT spot something she never planned, same goes with side-view on short-sleeved shirt. You could video-tape guys once in a while to spot their perverted minds trying to gauge the shady parts on woman's body, with their brains overloaded in trying to process if they spoted that she's not wearing pants of just how "deep" did the picture showed her crotch. Trust me, some will stare for quite a long time and keep re-visiting the image.
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No, most guys are not like that at all. Speak for yourself (which you just did, btw)....you're pretty sick if you think that way.
In case you didn't realize, the women were talking about virtual strangers asking for naked pics. They also are trying to say that they want to connect in another way first.
Another issue I have with it, is that I don't care to entertain men who just want to sext online or the phone and that's it (they exist). I'm only interested in having something real. No sexting is the only way to separate the wheat from the chaff.
I would react the same way with someone I was dating. I'd be flattered that he wanted them but not send any.
I do realize that women are talking about strangers, I just pointed out the difference between the genders. Even somebody here said men genitals are grose so if they are grose before getting to know him then they should be grose always. I guess it is just something she will have to either ignore or close her eyes so she won't see it. Anyway those guys like that might have some.issues I guess, but to label men like that as if they are the only ones who do it is wrong.
How come guys you're dating always ask for a nude or suggestive pic of you, when they can just look up porn and see a naked hot girl? One of my guy friends said its because its different when you actually know the naked girl in the pic.
odd reaction from many posts, as if any guy who asks is a creep. seems to me that sexting can be a normal part of sexual interest in your partner. as a guy, i think it's kind of fun, kind of like phone sex. And, of course, it involves consenting adults who want to play.
No, most guys are not like that at all. Speak for yourself (which you just did, btw)....you're pretty sick if you think that way.
I'll just have to respond this way. Have some video where a woman MIGHT have "revealed" something, but the shady part doesn't make it clear that she did.
Leave the guys alone in their room to watch it and videotape them. (Most?) Guys will rewind to the scene and lust in attempt to figure out if that hot chick "revealed" something that they might have missed seeing.... in fact, they'll be aroused with the fact that they've spotted it (even if it cannot be confirmed) and their fantasy will push them to pause the scene even 100 times in an attempt to see her nude parts.
It's not that most men will reason this way, you can bet that most women will reason the same way. There's something arousing in being "denied" to see something or see something you think that "you shouldn't", so it's a better way to make it a teaser.
When a woman sends her very close picture and not displaying head or other body parts, the guy always doubts if it was her or she faked it even if she outright posts her naked pic of her crotch. This is what makes the arousal, not the nude pic itself in general. Next time he meets her, he'll imagine that naked picture and try to image it on her body parts, making him aroused. It's like a "superman's vision" that they don't have, trying to see through clothes.
I won't speak on this part for women because you get different feedback from women again and again and I'm not a woman. But I'm really baffled with the fact that if this thing won't work on women the same way it works on men, I'd guess that guys would figure it out already and the whole practice would've died out long ago. Lots of people are in fact revolted by seeing "rude"/"vulgar" pictures in general, don't forget that... it doesn't mean it isn't arousing, it's just considered insulting. I.e. I consider oral sex as savage, insulting and vulgar, but I'm not arguing that people aren't aroused by it. Hope I clarified myself on it.
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I'll just have to respond this way. Have some video where a woman MIGHT have "revealed" something, but the shady part doesn't make it clear that she did.
Leave the guys alone in their room to watch it and videotape them. Most guys (most?) will rewind to the scene and lust in attempt to figure out if that she "revealed" something that they might have missed seeing.... in fact, they'll be aroused with the fact that they've spotted it (even if it cannot be confirmed) and their fantasy will push them to pause the scene even 100 times in an attempt to see her nude parts.
That's a situation every guy came up in his life, regardless what you say. It's not that most men will reason this way, you can bet that most women will reason the same way. There's something arousing in being "denied" to see something or see something you think that "you shouldn't", so it's a better way to make it a teaser.
When a woman sends her very close picture and not displaying head, the guy always doubts if it was her or she faked it even if she outright posts her naked pic of her crotch. Next time he meets her, he'll imagine that naked picture and try to image it on her body parts, making him aroused. It's like a "superman's vision" that they don't have, seeing through clothes.
I won't speak on this part for women because you get different feedback from women again and again and I'm not a woman. But I'm really baffled with the fact that if this thing won't work on women the same way it works on men, I'd guess that guys would figure it out already and the whole practice would've died out long ago. Lots of people are in fact revolted by seeing "rude"/"vulgar" pictures in general, don't forget that... it doesn't mean it isn't arousing, it's just considered insulting. I.e. I consider oral sex as savage, insulting and vulgar, but I'm not arguing that people aren't aroused by it. Hope I clarified myself on it.
Okay, that's also an opinion. I consider people who perform oral sex as sick perverts as well, but guess what, it seems that most people on this forum do it. It's rather that majority will generally impose their view that I'm the weirdo because i'm in the minority. But that's for another topic and another forum.
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No, most guys are not like that at all. Speak for yourself (which you just did, btw)....you're pretty sick if you think that way.
