Limerence, Love at First Sight, Lust (older, attraction, experiences, feeling)
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I've been thinking about this topic since a different article was posted here. It's purely academic to me.
Some questions, meant to be partly answered by the poll:
Isn't love at first sight a happy subset of limerence?
What happens when limerence ends?
How do you personally tell limerence from lust?
I do want people to share their personal experiences.
I was 15. He was a big guy, which I liked, dark hair, and Italian. He was also 14 years older. The first time I laid eyes on him I couldn't take them off of him. My BFF's (we still are 50 years later) Mom even noticed it, (sitting around her kitchen table "shooting the breeze") and warned me to stay away from him (or vice versa, I don't remember now). I have always gone for "older", dark haired guys, beginning when I was very young and my first crush was "Ricky Ricardo" aka Desi Arnaz of I Love Lucy fame. My "limerence' left me a lasting memory, that's for sure.
I was 15. He was a big guy, which I liked, dark hair, and Italian. He was also 14 years older. The first time I laid eyes on him I couldn't take them off of him. My BFF's (we still are 50 years later) Mom even noticed it, (sitting around her kitchen table "shooting the breeze") and warned me to stay away from him (or vice versa, I don't remember now). I have always gone for "older", dark haired guys, beginning when I was very young and my first crush was "Ricky Ricardo" aka Desi Arnaz of I Love Lucy fame. My "limerence' left me a lasting memory, that's for sure.
Without getting too personal, how would you distinguish that from lust or a crush? With my probably only experience, it lasted for years and was painful.
I've been thinking about this topic since a different article was posted here. It's purely academic to me.
Some questions, meant to be partly answered by the poll:
Isn't love at first sight a happy subset of limerence?
What happens when limerence ends?
How do you personally tell limerence from lust?
I do want people to share their personal experiences.
What about the exposed tittie in that article??!!! Where was that warning??!!
Too many times to recount, more than I have fingers and toes. I can recount the times i haven't on the fingers of one hand. It never really did any bad damage to anyone.
What about the exposed tittie in that article??!!! Where was that warning??!!
Ha. I hadn't noticed. That was snuck in there.
Anyway, thinking about the subject from a different perspective, when an acquaintance seems too interested, maybe limerence should be suspected instead of mental illness. Maybe there are situations when it would be helpful to say, "Sorry, I'm not interested, and this is limerence. Look it up."
Without getting too personal, how would you distinguish that from lust or a crush? With my probably only experience, it lasted for years and was painful.
Well, at 15 I knew I was too young to become involved with him, for several reasons, so I knew there was no future. I was too young to know lust, I just thought about him 24/7, with longing to be with him, to see him, but without the lust/sexual attraction. Although we did make-out, I knew better than to let it go further, and he didn't push it (good looking AND intelligent). I don't remember how long it lasted, but I do remember how I felt, and I wouldn't trade the feeling or the memory for anything.
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