Confidence is overrated for attracting women (love, younger, college, attraction)
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Here we go. Another person tryibg2 to find excuses out of their control to blame why they can't get laid.
If the guys on here spent as much time bettering themselves as opposed to making all these threads why they can't get laid, maybe they wouldn't have these problems.
"Especially if they're tall" haha. Guarantee the OP is short.
Guys who do well with women tend to be confident, but that doesn't mean it's because of their confidence. In my opinion, it's because confident guys tend to be good looking. The reason they developed their immense confidence with women is because they know women are sexually attracted to them.
But, let's say it's true that confidence in and of itself is an attractive feature. Then good looking guys automatically have a big advantage because they are perceived as confident, especially if they're tall. This makes for cyclic increase of confidence and success with women.
Be good looking ---> get validation from women ---> develop confidence as a result ---> be even more attractive because you're confident ---> get even more validation from women ----> etc.
The opposite is
Be bad looking ---> get no validation from women ---> develop low self-esteem ---> be unattractive in part because of your low self-esteem ---> get even less validation ---> etc.
Unless a man has confidence in himself, he got nothing going for him but a "pot of cold grits"
Let me guess...every one of them makes a "decent" amount of money. Probably no burger flippers in the lot.
Let me guess... you dont make "decent" money?
Let me guess... you have every excuse for that reason as well how its not "your" fault?
Get over it dude.. it's not all about looks and it's not all about money. I used to not make much money nor was anything more than average. I was still getting laid and more dates than virtually anyone I knew.. I was confident, funny, comfortable to be around, etc.
It's your personality dude, obviously with the excuses you make you lack self confidence I'm sure.
This board is getting beyond old with every dude on here that can't meet women blaming it on EVERYTHING they have no control over.
"I wasn't born tall"
"I wasnt born a model"
"I'm not rich"
"Its womens fault, what is their deal?"
People overcome ALL of these things. Instead of crying like the last 3rd grader to get picked in dodgeball, they need to accept the fact some things they can't change and work on the things you can.
Let me guess... you have every excuse for that reason as well how its not "your" fault?
Get over it dude.. it's not all about looks and it's not all about money. I used to not make much money nor was anything more than average. I was still getting laid and more dates than virtually anyone I knew.. I was confident, funny, comfortable to be around, etc.
It's your personality dude, obviously with the excuses you make you lack self confidence I'm sure.
This board is getting beyond old with every dude on here that can't meet women blaming it on EVERYTHING they have no control over.
"I wasn't born tall"
"I wasnt born a model"
"I'm not rich"
"Its womens fault, what is their deal?"
People overcome ALL of these things. Instead of crying like the last 3rd grader to get picked in dodgeball, they need to accept the fact some things they can't change and work on the things you can.
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I wonder why you're attracted to these types of threads. In fact I wonder why so many people in general or attracted to these types of threads when they end up the same way. Post a positive thread and all the regs are out to lunch.
I wonder why you're attracted to these types of threads. In fact I wonder why so many people in general or attracted to these types of threads when they end up the same way. Post a positive thread and all the regs are out to lunch.
A creative writing professor once said that good writing comes from pain. So it is with threads. There is no story without a conflict, and no conflict without a story. Whiny threads appear to be man vs environment, but they are really man vs self.
Let me guess...every one of them makes a "decent" amount of money. Probably no burger flippers in the lot.
Nope. One is an asst. manager at Trader Joe's, another works as a receptionist at a hair salon and the big ginger guy works misc. farm jobs but hasn't had steady work in years.
None are rolling in money by any stretch of the imagination.
A creative writing professor once said that good writing comes from pain. So it is with threads. There is no story without a conflict, and no conflict without a story. Whiny threads appear to be man vs environment, but they are really man vs self.
Depends on who the writer is. I can't help that the OP makes these threads just to get attention. Even if the attention is negative.
Let me guess... you have every excuse for that reason as well how its not "your" fault?
Get over it dude.. it's not all about looks and it's not all about money. I used to not make much money nor was anything more than average. I was still getting laid and more dates than virtually anyone I knew.. I was confident, funny, comfortable to be around, etc.
It's your personality dude, obviously with the excuses you make you lack self confidence I'm sure.
This board is getting beyond old with every dude on here that can't meet women blaming it on EVERYTHING they have no control over.
"I wasn't born tall"
"I wasnt born a model"
"I'm not rich"
"Its womens fault, what is their deal?"
People overcome ALL of these things. Instead of crying like the last 3rd grader to get picked in dodgeball, they need to accept the fact some things they can't change and work on the things you can.
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It's more complicated than that, but the short version is that as an educated burger flipper, I experience an unbridgeable gulf of mutual attraction. I am uninterested in the women who are attracted to me - undereducated, low income often with kids - and the women to whom I am attracted (better educated) are uninterested in me. There is no app for this.
Kinda like a bad joke that was circulating in the early '90s, about how there were two kinds of jobs available, jobs you don't want and jobs you can't get.
Unless a man has confidence in himself, he got nothing going for him but a "pot of cold grits"
LOL
What basis could a burger flipper have for confidence in himself? Seems to me that such confidence would probably be based outside of reality.
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