Approaching girls in night clubs (friends, casual, social, good looking)
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what are some good ways of approaching a girl in a night club? Because of the high volume of the music is difficult to talk, what do you guys usually speak with girls in night clubs?
Talking usually gets kinda handicapped(screamy),
I dance around and read faces, If she looks at me quick and then away, I take it as a "no"
if she looks away, then back at my shoes, and then up, that's a "maybe".
Then I get gradually closer, if i get within half an armslength and she seems fine within, i'll try try touching her waist/hands, depends on the music.
Also always approach back or shoulder first, like you didn't mean to("actually looking for your friends"), frontside approach makes it seem like you give her too much attention, too early.
Once physical contact has been there for a little while I'll try kissing her, if she reciprocates, I hang around for another 10 minutes and ask her to come with me for some fresh air/smoke(I don't suggest smoke unless i taste it on her, because I don't smoke other than for the smokelot-talk outside parties.) exhcange names, and what you do, add something naughty-funnyish comment, and then ask if she wants to get out of there. The talk in the fresh air is essential, because otherwise she may feel trashy just bustin out of the dancefloor and away with a stranger.
Sometimes it works, a lot of the time it doesn't. It's easy to make mistakes, go in too early or let the chance slip, the supposed neughty/funny comment just went south and make it awkward or whatever, she might have a boyfriend but still be into dirty dancing which made it hard to read the signals. It also seems to work a lot better in bigger cities, in a closed off university campus the crowd can be kinda tough, coz too many people recognize each other to wanna screw up socially, so everyone is just keeping it down a bit...
Last edited by SwedishViking; 09-09-2013 at 02:50 AM..
what are some good ways of approaching a girl in a night club? Because of the high volume of the music is difficult to talk, what do you guys usually speak with girls in night clubs?
First of all, you don't "approach" girls. What you do is one step better. You put yourself in a position to have them approach you. Now, they're not going to be consciously approaching you by putting one foot in front of the other, but if they like you, they will put themselves in a position to 'be met'.
Think like the girl who likes you. She sees you and says to herself "he's cute, i would like to say hi" but she's not going to walk over to you and say hi. If you make eye contact with her and you get a "glance" and then you catch her glancing again, you need to maybe saunter over to her general area....not directly up to her because you dont want to scare her away, but if you just kind of find a way to get into her space and then, nature might take its course.
I think that you need to also portray a "vibe" that you arent lonely and looking to meet chicks....act like you're having a great time and arent in such a "hurry" to find someone to talk to. If a girl sees you across the room, you want her thinking that you're "busy" having fun...that will make you more attractive for sure.
First of all, you don't "approach" girls. What you do is one step better. You put yourself in a position to have them approach you. Now, they're not going to be consciously approaching you by putting one foot in front of the other, but if they like you, they will put themselves in a position to 'be met'.
I think that you need to also portray a "vibe" that you arent lonely and looking to meet chicks....act like you're having a great time and arent in such a "hurry" to find someone to talk to. If a girl sees you across the room, you want her thinking that you're "busy" having fun...that will make you more attractive for sure.
The bolded part, it's a better description of what I meant with approaching with the shoulder or back. basically don't show them any more attention than they've deserved.
Talking usually gets kinda handicapped(screamy),
I dance around and read faces, If she looks at me quick and then away, I take it as a "no"
if she looks away, then back at my shoes, and then up, that's a "maybe".
Then I get gradually closer, if i get within half an armslength and she seems fine within, i'll try try touching her waist/hands, depends on the music.
Also always approach back or shoulder first, like you didn't mean to("actually looking for your friends"), frontside approach makes it seem like you give her too much attention, too early.
Once physical contact has been there for a little while I'll try kissing her, if she reciprocates, I hang around for another 10 minutes and ask her to come with me for some fresh air/smoke(I don't suggest smoke unless i taste it on her, because I don't smoke other than for the smokelot-talk outside parties.) exhcange names, and what you do, add something naughty-funnyish comment, and then ask if she wants to get out of there. The talk in the fresh air is essential, because otherwise she may feel trashy just bustin out of the dancefloor and away with a stranger.
Sometimes it works, a lot of the time it doesn't. It's easy to make mistakes, go in too early or let the chance slip, the supposed neughty/funny comment just went south and make it awkward or whatever, she might have a boyfriend but still be into dirty dancing which made it hard to read the signals. It also seems to work a lot better in bigger cities, in a closed off university campus the crowd can be kinda tough, coz too many people recognize each other to wanna screw up socially, so everyone is just keeping it down a bit...
I must say I would absolutely hit the roof if some random guy tried to touch my hip/waist....
I must say I would absolutely hit the roof if some random guy tried to touch my hip/waist....
Like in you would jump high or what??
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