how long did it take to get bored of the married lifestyle?

[Skydive Outlaw]

I've been with enough married women that are having affairs to be able to say that in marriages without children, it is about the two year mark. If there are children, then a few years: at least up to the point where the children are in school.

But with that being said. Most women are happy with 'the marriage lifestyle' in terms of being with a guy that is a provider, spouse and consistent source of emotional and psychological resources. Basically their husband.

They do however seek out more in terms of sexual variety and excitement. When I say excitement, I mean the exciting endorphin and oxytocin fueled energy from having an affair: and not getting caught. For some women, it gives them an edge on their primary relationship and at times the tools to manage the everyday and boring aspects of being married, without jeopardizing the status of their marriage. Some only do it to alleviate the boredom and then return to their relationship baseline of being a good wife, mother and or partner to an unsuspecting husband, always confident that if they want to do it again that they have the option.

There is typically nothing even wrong with their husband, but rather he is not new and has already been secured. So in cases like that and through no fault of his own, his fate is predetermined. If and/or when a women gets caught, it is because she decided to get caught and is seeking a way out of her primary relationship while leaving the ball in her husbands court and waiting for him to make the first move. If he does not attempt to leave her or get a divorce after finding out about an affair, then she ceases to respect him as a man and if she stays with him will more than likely engage in the same infidelity again in the future.