Are you attracted to male-ness?

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by BadJuju

I'm a bit of a dichotomy, I suppose. I work in construction as an electrician. I am somewhat muscular and have a decent amount of scars. I only ride a motorcycle. All things that would traditionally be considered masculine, but guess what: I'm a man with gender dysphoria that wishes he were a woman. I would like to do ballet. I would love to be doing theater. I would love to wear make-up. I daydream about myself as a girl all the time while operating heavy machinery or installing heavy bundles of conduit using my "manly" tools. And you would never know it because I certainly never discuss it IRL.

Things just don't file neatly the way some people would like to think they do.

Is this real?

I ask cause I don't know if you're joking or not... if real, this is completely awful way to live and feel bad for ya... not pity, but genuine sadness cause that would be an awful way to live.... straddling two worlds like that.

Sorry to hear that. Hang in there man..... maybe talk to someone about it... maybe they can help you frame it somehow.. IDK....

[BadJuju]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Is this real?

I ask cause I don't know if you're joking or not... if real, this is completely awful way to live and feel bad for ya... not pity, but genuine sadness cause that would be an awful way to live.... straddling two worlds like that.

Sorry to hear that. Hang in there man..... maybe talk to someone about it... maybe they can help you frame it somehow.. IDK....

It's true and it is an awful way to live, but that's life for you. It is rarely a good thing for most creatures. Thanks for the kind words, though. I just wanted to illustrate a point that things just don't jive the way some traditionally-minded people think they do. I'm really firmly against gender roles and the expectations that society places upon people because of the sex they happen to be.