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when shes buying feminine hygeine products at the supermarket.... not the best of times to introduce yourself
one of the funniest scenarios i've seen, was after a rock concert,,,, hundreds of people were out in the woods ..peeing...one guy was walking around with a flash-light and a roll of toilet paper..
"hello, my name is jimmy, any lady need some toilet paper"??
and some women would scream at him,,saying get out of here,,,but a few said-hey jimmy,,,come over here,,i need some,,,and then he'd ask for their phone number...
i dont think he was quite right,,,but it was comical..
I still believe you guys are clueless. Forget all of this "Approach" crap. You can SPEAK to a woman almost any time you can speak to any other person. Your idea that approaching a woman is somehow part of getting a date will more or less ensure an instant rejection.
Women like to feel comfortable, which is the exact opposite of feeling like they are being hunted or targeted for immediate brownie points.
Take lessons on improving your conversation skills. Women will more friendly and easier to get to know if you actually talk to them.
For once a woman in these kind of threads talks abit of sense. The most successful guys with the ladies, make a habit of talking to women regularly and pretty much anytime, anywhere. With a few exceptions.
I still believe you guys are clueless. Forget all of this "Approach" crap. You can SPEAK to a woman almost any time you can speak to any other person. Your idea that approaching a woman is somehow part of getting a date will more or less ensure an instant rejection.
Women like to feel comfortable, which is the exact opposite of feeling like they are being hunted or targeted for immediate brownie points.
Take lessons on improving your conversation skills. Women will more friendly and easier to get to know if you actually talk to them.
Not every woman is hot, most are just average or below average. If your not good looking dont approach average looking or below average women, you might be scolded as a creep!
Who's average are you basing your post on? Your average? My average? My husband's average?
Maybe you should consider the average according to the guy at the mechanic shop.
Everyone's attractive is different from others so this is not a statement that can be set in stone as to which "level of attractive" one person is when compared to another.
Original poster: Using your logic the best time for you to approach a woman is probably never.
If you have to over analyze and dramatize a simple approach and greeting you are not mature enough to even write about it let alone think about it, ask about it on a public forum or (gasp) try it in real life.
Men and women can be approached at any given moment, the reaction to said approach is what counts.
So this is something I've thought about and other people might have too.
At what point is it creepy to hit on a woman? What situations are appropriate?
I've always felt that any situation where she is "trapped"' and has to talk to you is bad (ie a plane seat, in a car, an elevator etc.) if its not really obvious that you're hitting it off. I'd also say that anytime she is busy working on something serious like filling out papers at the post office or walking somewhere briskly are bad too.
Obviously dark alleys and places like that would be on the creepy list.
What are some other ones you can think of?
If she thinks you're attractive, it doesn't matter where you hit on her.
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When they are working. Especially someone working at a tip dependent job as their livelihood in part is dependent on being nice to customers. Good boundaries are good to have.
So this is something I've thought about and other people might have too.
At what point is it creepy to hit on a woman? What situations are appropriate?
I've always felt that any situation where she is "trapped"' and has to talk to you is bad (ie a plane seat, in a car, an elevator etc.) if its not really obvious that you're hitting it off. I'd also say that anytime she is busy working on something serious like filling out papers at the post office or walking somewhere briskly are bad too.
Obviously dark alleys and places like that would be on the creepy list.
What are some other ones you can think of?
If by "approach" you mean go up to a total stranger and try to chat them up, I think the ONLY times that is okay is when you're in a venue where that behavior is expected--i.e. bars, dance clubs, etc. But I know I am probably in the minority on this. Plenty of men think it is okay to "approach" any woman, any time, anywhere...
If by "approach" you mean go up to a total stranger and try to chat them up, I think the ONLY times that is okay is when you're in a venue where that behavior is expected--i.e. bars, dance clubs, etc. But I know I am probably in the minority on this. Plenty of men think it is okay to "approach" any woman, any time, anywhere...
I think it depends on how it's done--it's all situational. Just yesterday I was in the mood for chocolate peanut butter ice cream. So I stopped at the grocery store after work. the man behind me in line said something like, "Mmm, chocolate peanut butter... my favorite." I joked back... "it's all mine, you can't have it." He laughed and said, "well, with that little container it's only a serving for one anyway." (it was a 1.5 quart)... etc, etc. We talked for about 5 minutes while waiting in line together.
Okay, granted, the man was just making chit chat, didn't ask me out or ask for my number or a date or anything. But after the friendly chit chat, I would have been inclined to if I weren't currently dating someone else.
I think Ellie pretty much hit it on the nose. The best time to approach is any time it's natural to talk to anyone (man or woman). Start off with light, non-sexual/non-hitting on you conversation (like my ice cream guy). See if she's friendly/receptive and go by ear from there.
I would even say chat up women you have no interest in (but don't ask them out if you aren't interested). Just talking to a variety of women will help improve your conversational skills and make you more at ease when talking to women you are interested in.
If she finds you attractive there's no such thing.
You can approach anytime or any place
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