Virgin: Would it be a "problem" for you? (marriage, guys)

[Ragazza2011]

I wouldn't want to date or get into a relationship with a virgin. Boring!

[austin2359]

Emotionally mature people realize that relationships don't matter, what really matters is survival and income.

Therefore I don't respect anyone who 'values' a relationship. Therefore I'm pro-virginity except for having children and patronizing prostitutes.

[Mighty_Pelican]

Some replies remind me of the general state of the job market, everyone is responsible for "training" virgins except your company. The "past the cost to someone else" phenomena, the chicken and the egg, etc.

When "applying" for sexual relationships, you can't land job without experience, but cannot experience without a job.

And of course there are also people who want the opposite chicken and the egg phenomena, or having a partner that is amazing in bed, but has no prior experience with anyone. How do you think people get good at sex? LOL

[11thHour]

It would be a problem, yes. I want them to be experienced already. Sex is much more pleasurable with someone who knows what they're doing.

[Montanan21]

Originally Posted by Dport7674

This logic would apply to a 45 yr old, or even a 60 yr old virgin.

At some point, lack of sexual experience tells you something about the person, it eventually holds significance.

In my opinion, early 30's is the cut off point. If you make it to 35 and still a virgin, I assume you're emotionally stunted in some way.

That they have morals....and dont give into peer pressure just for the sake of loosing the V-card.

[Futurist110]

Originally Posted by bg7

They inevitably have no experience and no talents in the bedroom, just like any other novice. I don't hire novices.

I'm not sure that this is necessarily always the case. After all, one can also learn and acquire some experience from porn, sex dolls, bananas, et cetera.

[Futurist110]

Originally Posted by Charlotte Panthers

If you met someone in their mid 20s or early 30s that was a virgin, would that be a problem for you?

In itself, No. Heck, I myself am planning to go in this direction. One advantage of virgins would be almost no risk of STDs.

[StabbyAbby]

I would definitely prefer a non-virgin man but I wouldn't automatically rule out a virgin man as long as his dick was reasonably thick and long, he was willing to learn how to please me, he was decent looking and he had an agreeable personality.

[Dport7674]

Originally Posted by Montanan21

That they have morals....and dont give into peer pressure just for the sake of loosing the V-card.

A middle aged person chooses to stay a virgin due to the fact that they "have morals". You're right..No matter how highly unlikely, that is one possible scenario.

Other scenarios could be fear of intimacy, closeted homosexuality, childhood trauma, sexual dysfunction, and many others that are much more common than not giving in to peer pressure.

[cattusbabe]

Some folks get a late start.....some a very late start.
I am thinking of a women who had her first encounter in her early 40's.
It happens for a lot of reasons. Lack of opportunity being a big one.
Not liking the options offered being another. Allowing ones life to neck down to where all you have is work and home and then work again.

Then there are often times family demands and obligations that put road block up making dating very difficult. That was the case of the women I am thinking about. She was primary care giver and support of a disabled sibling through much of her twenties and thirties. That reeks havoc with attempting to find a relationship and then there is just getting older and that limitation. The older your are the more embarrassed you are and you hide your inexperience to the point of not making the attempt.
Her story ends well. She met a man who cared enough and was considerate enough and loved her enough for her to gently discover intimacy. They have been married some 15 years so it can happen.