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I wouldn't even consider bullies a life changing event, let alone something to have a bad attitude about for 15 years.
Bullies are everywhere, it's a part of life. Some are much worse, some just try.....
I'm trying to relate to your mindset, and honestly can't. I can't see how you can have a healthy relationship with a woman with your outlook on life.
It doesn't sound like you have a healthy relationship with yourself.
Agree, the whole workplace bullying thing is just...hard to understand. You report, you sue or you leave. I could see if he was terrorized in prison or tortured by enemy combatants...but a job is a job and not worth the stress if you are unhappy. Just blow.
That's pretty much all you should take from everything you write.
I think many men would benefit from counseling if they would get over them self's and go.
Most women have been taught to nurture others on an emotional level, and therefore have the ability to take care of themselves. They generally have other women to support them through hard emotional times or just on a day-to-day level. Men, on the other hand, usually have no one there for them emotionally other than the woman with whom they are involved. They have male friends, but do men talk about emotional subjects with each other? Not really—it’s more about business and sports. When the woman they are in a relationship with leaves them, they find themselves alone and in a lot of emotional pain.
This is from a blog / article I had to read for my psychology class .
I wasn't bullied as a child bar the abuse I received from my dad who never had a kind word for me while he was alive
I was bullied by a female supervisor while abroad many years ago but she and I will meet again
And you repeatedly bring this up in nearly all of your threads. You need to get over this somehow, it's eating your soul away. Have you been to therapy? You seem to have some unrealistic expectations about life. Almost everyone has bad things happen to them at some point in their lifetime, you can either dwell on it and allow it to consume you or you move ahead and make your life great. Your negativity isn't healthy.
I wouldn't even consider bullies a life changing event, let alone something to have a bad attitude about for 15 years.
Bullies are everywhere, it's a part of life. Some are much worse, some just try.....
I'm trying to relate to your mindset, and honestly can't. I can't see how you can have a healthy relationship with a woman with your outlook on life.
It doesn't sound like you have a healthy relationship with yourself.
whether you don't consider bullying to be a life changing matter experience or not is irrelevant , it is for many many people the world over , doesn't matter whether it happened in school or the workplace , for me it happened at a pivotal moment in my life and triggered a response , its saddening these days to see so many people eager to give bullies a pass , its insidious quite frankly
And you repeatedly bring this up in nearly all of your threads. You need to get over this somehow, it's eating your soul away. Have you been to therapy? You seem to have some unrealistic expectations about life. Almost everyone has bad things happen to them at some point in their lifetime, you can either dwell on it and allow it to consume you or you move ahead and make your life great. Your negativity isn't healthy.
first of all most people do not have bad things happen to them
secondly I have had therapy but therapy does not work for everyone , the bully who had a cataclyismic effect on my life has to answer for what she did , she cannot complain about blowback
first of all most people do not have bad things happen to them
secondly I have had therapy but therapy does not work for everyone , the bully who had a cataclyismic effect on my life has to answer for what she did , she cannot complain about blowback
I thought this thread was supposed to be about dating... Now you sound like some psychopath hell bent on revenge. It's getting a little scary...
first of all most people do not have bad things happen to them
secondly I have had therapy but therapy does not work for everyone , the bully who had a cataclyismic effect on my life has to answer for what she did , she cannot complain about blowback
Are you going to sneak up on her and punch her in the face out behind the bar?
Christ almighty, it was 15 years ago, You were a teenager. She doesn't even remember you. Don't make me watch Investigation Discovery to see how this all ends up!
first of all most people do not have bad things happen to them
secondly I have had therapy but therapy does not work for everyone , the bully who had a cataclyismic effect on my life has to answer for what she did , she cannot complain about blowback
Oh bull. Allowing a workplace to bully to control your life is destructive. For you it was a bully, for others that cataclysmic change could be their child dying, their parents dying, losing their home to an earthquake, a myriad of unforeseen circumstances that have a terrible effect on a person. Normal people move on with their life. What you are doing is ruminating, plotting and being really unhealthy about your responses.
first of all most people do not have bad things happen to them
secondly I have had therapy but therapy does not work for everyone , the bully who had a cataclyismic effect on my life has to answer for what she did , she cannot complain about blowback
Life is fraught with horrible things happening to good (and bad, and in between) people all the time. Crime, physical and sexual abuse, life threatening (and ending) diseases, death of loved ones..... my goodness, the list is endless.
I've had more than my share of the above, as have many others.
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I thought this thread was supposed to be about dating... Now you sound like some psychopath hell bent on revenge. It's getting a little scary...
that's a little over the top to put it mildly
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