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Originally Posted by darrensmooth
The only problem with your post (and the reason why he asked her in the first place) is you can indeed meet a woman at her workplace, but it is more challenging due to what you stated.
And I, personally, feel it is improper, just as asking people out you work with or have business relationships with. Yes, it CAN work and people can point to examples of it working, doesn't mean it is prudent behavior.
And I, personally, feel it is improper, just as asking people out you work with or have business relationships with. Yes, it CAN work and people can point to examples of it working, doesn't mean it is prudent behavior.
I should tell my family friend that asking out girls at work is bad and he should divorce his beautiful and lovely wife immediately as it is not prudent behavior
Can we stop commenting on the OP's decision? He was not asking for criticism. So what if it doesn't work out? He had nothing to lose.
OP, awkwardness is hard to overcome, but are you willing to try to get over it for a chance to find your soul mate? I would continue seeing her. Maybe your email went to her spam folder or somehow slipped through the crack, or maybe she's seriously considering your proposition. It's a Schrodinger's cat. You can never figure out what happened unless you ask her about it.
I asked her out primarily because I felt some flirting energy from her end and she did give me a compliment or two
it is very tough to tell the difference between a girl just being nice and actually being interested in situations like this. I was aware of this going in and knew I was taking a risk
I must admit that i'm shocked that she hasn't responded back to me (either a yes or an easy letdown). I'm sure she would want me as a customer right?
No offensive champ.
Any job in which someone can receive tips, would be foolish not to flirt. She flirts with guys all day, and probably gets many suitors like yourself. Don't take it personal. If you really dig her, call her on it. What else do you have to loose?
I'm baffled that she wouldn't give me a polite letdown though as a worst case scenario so it wouldn't be awkward to get my hair cut there again in the future
She is probably baffled that you asked her out in email instead of while you were sitting in the chair getting your hair cut during your flirting conversation.
YOU are the one who has made the situation awkward and she has probably been asked out numerous times by her clients.
Next time, use your voice not your fingers, let her hear you ask her out when speaking to her.
It is much more personal and not like an "Oh by the way, would you go out with me".......
Any job in which someone can receive tips, would be foolish not to flirt. She flirts with guys all day, and probably gets many suitors like yourself. Don't take it personal. If you really dig her, call her on it. What else do you have to loose?
Every cute girl everywhere gets many many suitors. If you use that as a reason not to do anything, you'll be home alone every Friday
Should have just kept the email professional. An inquiry about her profession, school, etc. (assuming this wasn't done in person already)
At least that would have told you:
- Is the email address real
- Does she check it often
Before you straight up asked her on a date. In an email.
If you had gotten a response back, then maybe you could have done a little more with it. Felt her out. Seen how far out of the professional realm you could go with reciprocation, before just diving right into it and making things uncomfortable for you (and probably her).
I agree with the others that her in-person attitude could have very well stemmed from a comfortable business-client relationship, and probably shouldn't have been assumed to be an invite.
Did you ever ascertain whether she was dating someone else?
Should have just kept the email professional. An inquiry about her profession, school, etc. (assuming this wasn't done in person already)
At least that would have told you:
- Is the email address real
- Does she check it often
Before you straight up asked her on a date. In an email.
If you had gotten a response back, then maybe you could have done a little more with it. Felt her out. Seen how far out of the professional realm you could go with reciprocation, before just diving right into it and making things uncomfortable for you (and probably her).
I agree with the others that her in-person attitude could have very well stemmed from a comfortable business-client relationship, and probably shouldn't have been assumed to be an invite.
Did you ever ascertain whether she was dating someone else?
Nothing you say is wrong, but what's done is done. The OP was asking what to do next. Given what has happened, what do you say he should do?
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