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While getting out of the house and doing fun hobbies can help, being an interesting person or vice versa (boring) has less to do with your interests/hobbies and much more to do with your ATTITUDE.
I know a person who has traveled to many countries around the world for sightseeing and stuff...but when I hang out and talk with him, he just comes across extremely bland, lifeless and debbie-downer-ish. Meh. Some friends of mine have gotten the same impression of him. When I think someone is dull, I'm not talking about their interests; I'm talking about their personality.
This is very true. It's attitude and ability to communicate.
SO's mom went to Ireland this year, and when asked what it was like, she said to me "it was green". I find her very difficult to talk to, she doesn't elaborate, doesn't engage in interactive conversations. It's very awkward to try to communicate with someone who doesn't keep conversation flowing, and doesn't seem very interested in their own life, let alone anyone else's.
99% of other women out there would rather do anything else than play Battlefield with you.
And I'm not asking her too. There's a big difference between gaming in free time when the girlfriend is doing something else, and ignoring her to game. If she tells me not to game, then I'm going to tell her to not read "50 Shades of Grey" or watch reality television. It's trying to control someone and that's not ok. If she gets enjoyment from those things, and still makes me feel good, then I don't really care how she spends her me time. As long as it's not naked with another guy, getting overly intoxicated where she causes herself or someone else harm, or doing drugs.
I still enjoy going out on nice dates together and going out of town together, where I leave the games at home. All my girlfriends were fine with me gaming, because I still paid attention to them. They accepted gaming because it was a part of me, which also made me unique. I had one ex who didn't like me gaming and we had a ton of problems. She wanted to control the relationship from every angle.
-Politics
-Popular TV shows
-Hip books and authors
-Organic cooking and Trader Joes items
-Popular bars, parks, and restaurants
-Hip music
-Cool vacation spots
-Having dating/relationship stories about you or others
I have a friend from college who has absolutely cornered the market on being conversational. He is into every popular, cool TV show, music, and books and cooking.
It will only help you marginally with women though.
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I find her very difficult to talk to, she doesn't elaborate, doesn't engage in interactive conversations. It's very awkward to try to communicate with someone who doesn't keep conversation flowing, and doesn't seem very interested in their own life, let alone anyone else's.
