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I recently checked out Match.com out of curiosity, and there were quite a few men just getting out of marriages who were honest about wanting to date casually (without sex) just so they could brush up their social/conversation skills. I don't think there's anything wrong with that -- it's kind of at the place I'm at right now.
I personally don't understand dating at all right after a marriage but I do get why some do it. This is true if they were married a long time. For me though this type of person wouldn't be good for someone who was looking for a relationship.
I personally don't understand dating at all right after a marriage but I do get why some do it. This is true if they were married a long time. For me though this type of person wouldn't be good for someone who was looking for a relationship.
Exactly. That's why I would never take one of them seriously. I don't care how much "chemistry" there is between us. A person like that is very vulnerable, and one must always take that into account. A lot of the time, they're searching for a rebound person, even if they don't consciously know it.
But, I did go out with a few guys who were freshly divorced (three months or so), just because they wanted to freshen up on their dating skills. No second dates, needless to say.
I recently checked out Match.com out of curiosity, and there were quite a few men just getting out of marriages who were honest about wanting to date casually (without sex) just so they could brush up their social/conversation skills. I don't think there's anything wrong with that -- it's kind of at the place I'm at right now.
That's why I am here. To do some homework on myself and what is out there, as far as mindsets and a slice of perspective. I might try to go out after Valentines in real life. In my head, I should probably wait the obligatory year, but I've already felt unconnected for the past two years. I've worked on me, but as I have made it obvious on here, I still have work to do. Feb. is a good compromise to myself. If I'm not ready, I wait.
But I miss talking with a woman, in an intentional kind of way!
Exactly. That's why I would never take one of them seriously. I don't care how much "chemistry" there is between us. A person like that is very vulnerable, and one must always take that into account. A lot of the time, they're searching for a rebound person, even if they don't consciously know it.
But, I did go out with a few guys who were freshly divorced (three months or so), just because they wanted to freshen up on their dating skills. No second dates, needless to say.
I once saw a profile on Match from a recently divorced man and he sounded bitter. I don't even think I could be friends with a guy like that let alone dating.
That's why I am here. To do some homework on myself and what is out there, as far as mindsets and a slice of perspective. I might try to go out after Valentines in real life. In my head, I should probably wait the obligatory year, but I've already felt unconnected for the past two years. I've worked on me, but as I have made it obvious on here, I still have work to do. Feb. is a good compromise to myself. If I'm not ready, I wait.
My advice: be mindful of your comfort zone. If you're not ready to step out of it just yet, that's perfectly fine. A lot of people need solitude to fully heal from a divorce or break-up. That's okay!
I didn't date for a year after one break-up (four-year live-in situation), and I was perfectly fine with it.
Not sure I ever dated a single guy who is as level headed as you sound.
Absolutely agree . OP, I think your dating style is smart. Truth be told, this is pretty much my dating style, too. People should stop looking for "Mr./Mrs. Right and instead look for "Mr./Mrs. Right Now" and see where things go from there. No pressure, no drama, just two people going with the flow.
If it becomes serious, great. If not, so what? As long as the two of you are happy with a casual dating situation, who gives a rip what anyone else thinks. Too many people let their so-called "friends" dictate their lives .
You changed it from the wrong word to not a word at all. Surely you have spell check on that thing and noticed the red line under the word? The word you're looking for is serial.
Haha. So you were referring to the dating of obscure programmer code, rather than serial dating? Uh-huh.
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. OP, I think your dating style is smart. Truth be told, this is pretty much my dating style, too. People should stop looking for "Mr./Mrs. Right and instead look for "Mr./Mrs. Right Now" and see where things go from there. No pressure, no drama, just two people going with the flow. 
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