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ok , id prefer if this question could be addressed without prejudice to my previous threads
ive been on two dates with this girl who ive been in contact with on match.com since the end of October , were having dinner this evening and she was very warm towards the Christmas e card I sent her , it was a jokey one and she is a very funny girl who loves comedy
im staying in a hotel tonite in her home town , I have not told her this and it is not my intention to take her there with me , im picking her up at her moms and will leave her home after dinner
I would be happy to have this girl be my girlfriend but im wondering if its too early , I know some will say that sex needs to happen first but I honest am not in a rush , that said she may view me as a wimp for not wanting sex before asking her to be my girlfriend
perhaps I should go half way and ask her to be exclusive but that sounds kind of formal and unromantic tbh
Why are you in such a rush to make this relationship "official?" I think it's best to form the bond and then have that conversation if it's necessary. Trying to make this thing official probably isn't going to make her stay with you anymore than if you just try to enjoy yourself.
What is the point of being "exclusive" with someone who lives 90 miles away?
After only two dates, how can you expect her to commit to a relationship that is only part-time and long distance? You would have to be insanely attracted to each other on a deep, chemical level to even consider that at this stage, but frankly the way you describe this connection seems a bit lukewarm. Wondering if/when you should call her, what words to say to her, making a science experiment of every contact...
It is almost as if being in a relationship--any relationship--is more important to the OP than the actual woman involved. You barely know her, and 2 weeks ago you were acting the same way and asking the same questions about an entirely different woman. And just weeks before that it was yet another entirely different woman.
Why are you in such a rush to make this relationship "official?" I think it's best to form the bond and then have that conversation if it's necessary. Trying to make this thing official probably isn't going to make her stay with you anymore than if you just try to enjoy yourself.
Never in my life has it ever been brought up and the "if it's necessary" is key. Most of these things naturally progress or not and if someone had asked me to be their exclusive girlfriend after two dates I'd think it was quite odd and I'd back off from that sort of neediness.
After two dates? It's not as if they are old friends, they are complete strangers.
I was exclusive with my ex-husband from date one? We were bf/gf from that point on. That was 11 years ago. The men I became more serious with after that, yep, pretty early as well. I never "dated" those I was in a relationship with. That is to say, there was never a period of casual dating that later progressed to exclusivity. However, in these situations we did not operate in the "casual dating" sense where there is little communication prior to the first date. There was never anything really casual about them.
Even the men I didn't have such a deep connection with, exclusivity was established early on. I do not see multiple people at once, and do not get involved with anyone who does.
In the case of being exclusive in the relationship sense, that's taken place a few times out of several dozen dates over the years. So it's not a common occurrence. My "type" is very rare, so when it does come around it's usually a very strong, immediate connection on both ends.
What would a traditional Irish man do in this situation?
Go have a pint with his man posse.
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