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I have been married, 40 years ago, that was what people did...they got married.
Now, it seems to me, many couples choose to live together, have children, basically live "as married", but do not get married.
Is marriage important?
Why?
Why Not?
Marriage does not guarantee a commitment, or anything else.
Do people get married, because of family and society expectations? I know, back in the day, I got married, that is what you did....living together was not acceptable, except we knew people did it, in California! Not Utah, where I lived.
What is the difference between living together, long term, and being married?
I have been married, 40 years ago, that was what people did...they got married.
Now, it seems to me, many couples choose to live together, have children, basically live "as married", but do not get married.
Is marriage important?
Why?
Why Not?
Marriage does not guarantee a commitment, or anything else.
Do people get married, because of family and society expectations? I know, back in the day, I got married, that is what you did....living together was not acceptable, except we knew people did it, in California! Not Utah, where I lived.
What is the difference between living together, long term, and being married?
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Well, here's my take...
YES, marriage is "important", meaning it has great value.
It should be noted, that like any heavy concept or object, however, it has potential for great harm when misused or abused by those not sober or mature enough to take on the responsibility of living/managing it conscientiously.
I think shacking up before marriage unromanticises marriage (is that even a word? Lol) and cheapens it. My boyfriend completely disagrees with me and thinks couples should live together before marriage. I have no idea what we're gonna do when (if) we get to that point, but I hope not a break up.
I and many of my friends still believes marriage is important. Even my friends who don't really care to have children.
No, seriously, this discussion came up between me and my BF, "Should we get married?". He asked me what I thought, I told him, it did not matter to me...so, we just left that where it is...we really are very happy, and have been living together for over a year now. Been together for three years.
Seems like his son is dismayed we live in "sin", and we are not setting a good example for his kids. My kids don't care. All are grown up....
No, seriously, this discussion came up between me and my BF, "Should we get married?". He asked me what I thought, I told him, it did not matter to me...so, we just left that where it is...we really are very happy, and have been living together for over a year now. Been together for three years.
Seems like his son is dismayed we live in "sin", and we are not setting a good example for his kids. My kids don't care. All are grown up....
A solid marriage provides a strong stable foundation for raising a family.
When people are past childbearing age or interest there are still advantages and protections to being married, but I can see how someone in your situation may not desire it.
However, while you yourself are no longer raising kids, your guy's son is - so I can also understand his concern about the example you two are setting as the elder generation.
I am a traditionalist along with my wife. There wasn't anything against living together or common law. However, we felt it was the right thing for us.
Would you have stayed with her if you she wouldn't have lived with you before marriage? I'm nervous about my bf's belief's on this! lol He's a traditional guy too..but I at least want to be engaged before living together.
Would you have stayed with her if you she wouldn't have lived with you before marriage? I'm nervous about my bf's belief's on this! lol He's a traditional guy too..but I at least want to be engaged before living together.
We didn't officially live together. Granted we had keys to each other's place and we were at one or the others 95% of time. If we didn't have that arrangement we would have taken longer to marry.
The main thing is that both of you agree and share similar values and ideals.
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