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Women and men can never be, "just friends" I'be broken it down numerous times scientifically, but apparently nobody cares.
NEXT!
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Originally Posted by AmericanBannedStand
This. In opposite sex platonic friendships, there is always, always, ALWAYS sexual attraction going one direction or the other. Sometimes both directions.
Wrong.
Those girls were rude. I hope he told them to mind their own business.
"Meeting his judgmental female friends. "
This would apply to many of my female friends. Many just seem bound and determined to decide who is right for you and who isn't. I already have a mom and sisters, I don't need friends sticking their noses into who I am dating
Has anyone ever had an issue with meeting the pals of the man or woman you're currently dating?
I just recently met two female friends of my current boo and I have to say...I was very annoyed with them. One of them hardly talked to me at all yet she still went up to my guy asking "why her? whats so special about her? I mean, you can't marry this girl, she practically looks like your sister!" The second girl was really sweet but I felt like she kept testing me to see how much I liked him and to see how "smart" or "cultured" I was with certain topics etc. I was super sweet to her yet she still felt the need to tell my guy "ehh, she seems a little hesitant and uncomfortable around me".
Ew. This is creepy, jerk-y behavior. At least one of them (guess which one) is an "ex" of his, most likely. Are you sure they're no longer involved? This is not normal. Red flag. Or yellow flag, at least.
This. In opposite sex platonic friendships, there is always, always, ALWAYS sexual attraction going one direction or the other. Sometimes both directions.
Wrong again, my friend. I have a couple brothers from another mother and there is zero discussion of sex. We've all agreed any discussion of it would seem like incest. I also know and talk to their girlfriends and wives and have tremendous respect for them and so do they. There's no hidden agenda in either direction. Just a lot of laughter and shared interest discussions.
It does take a certain level of maturity to have friends of the opposite sex. Not everyone has sex on the brain for everyone they know.
What did your boyfriend say to the one who pulled him aside & talked about you behind your back? What did he say to the one who spoke of you to your face? See where I'm going here? The problem isn't them; it's him. His women friends will say all kinds of smack about you (although saying it to your face like that is incredibly rude). It's how your boyfriend deals with it that is the issue.
This. In opposite sex platonic friendships, there is always, always, ALWAYS sexual attraction going one direction or the other. Sometimes both directions.
Disagree. I've been friends with my male bff for more than 10 years and there has NEVER been sexual attraction between us. We've had plenty of opportunities but we think of each other as siblings and nothing more. He and my bf get along great, and I adore his girlfriend..so that goes well
Regardless, my bf's female friends really like me and we get along incredibly well. Lucky us
What did your boyfriend say to the one who pulled him aside & talked about you behind your back? What did he say to the one who spoke of you to your face? See where I'm going here? The problem isn't them; it's him. His women friends will say all kinds of smack about you (although saying it to your face like that is incredibly rude). It's how your boyfriend deals with it that is the issue.
This struck me as well. Why would he tell her all the nasty things they said about her behind her back unless he wanted to get some reaction out of her and make himself seem more superior to her. Like, "See, I'm worthy of your extreme efforts because this is what other women think of me and of you."
Wrong again, my friend. I have a couple brothers from another mother and there is zero discussion of sex. I also know their and talk to their girlfriends and wives and have tremendous respect for them and so do they. There's no hidden agenda in either direction. Just a lot of laughter and shared interest discussions.
It does take a certain level of maturity to have friends of the opposite sex.
Exactly. I have a lot of male friends, and almost all the women I am friends with also have a lot of male friends. I'm friends with their wives and girlfriends as well, but I knew the husbands/boyfriends first. When I was home last week, my group consisted of three men and three women. Two of the men and one of the women were married to spouses who weren't able to attend, and the rest of us were single. Yet - gasp! - there were no illicit romances or even flirtation going on, even after much alcohol had been consumed.
I think there's something sad and stunted about people who go through life classifying the opposite gender as mere sex objects who have no inherent worth beyond that. Because isn't that what you're really doing when you say meaningful friendships with the opposite sex are impossible outside of romance or family?
Has anyone ever had an issue with meeting the pals of the man or woman you're currently dating?
I just recently met two female friends of my current boo and I have to say...I was very annoyed with them. One of them hardly talked to me at all yet she still went up to my guy asking "why her? whats so special about her? I mean, you can't marry this girl, she practically looks like your sister!" The second girl was really sweet but I felt like she kept testing me to see how much I liked him and to see how "smart" or "cultured" I was with certain topics etc. I was super sweet to her yet she still felt the need to tell my guy "ehh, she seems a little hesitant and uncomfortable around me".
I guess I get it, but still, I can't tell if they're hating or genuinely care for his happiness. I just hate the feeling of constantly being judged or picked apart by people who my man considers to be good friends of his.
Anyone have similar stories?
If you are dating him and not his friends what do you care how they think of you?
Move on and don't give them another bit of energy or wasted time.
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