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You have admitted your activities, not what what you really are. There is a clear difference.
Are you sure?
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Originally Posted by AlonzoHelmt
Yes, I know I'm a selfish bastard and could never get the courage to tell her the truth, that our marriage was a sham. But you how it's like, the children were small and she didn't work. She has known about my affairs for a long time, it's not like she's stupid.
On one hand there is many words I want to call you for doing that to her. After 39 years of her raising YOUR childern and meeting your needs..your tossing her to the side because you want to be free. I hope that she gets a ball-busting lawyer and gets everything she deserves for putting up with your selfish self for all that time.
I'm not tossing anyone to the side. She has the freedom to rebuilt her own life and I've finally been honest with her and myself. Better after 40 years than never.
There is no reason to put any credence in anything the OP says. His words and promises are meaningless. He promised to love and cherish his wife till death and remain faithful to her. This promise obviously means nothing to him. He changed his mind when it was convenient for him. I would not want this fellow for a friend.
I assure you I'm a very good friend. I try my best to be a good father and grandfather but only they could tell. I was never born to be a husband, though, you can't be good at everything.
Divorce after all these years is going to be a legal odyssey. There's no way she has the money to give me half of our house's current value.
But not being divorced doesn't bother me, I still refer to her as my wife, which is perfectly natural to me.
Besides, she's very Catholic and said she has married for life to only one man.
Not a problem. By the time you give her alimony, half of your retiremewnt plans, half of your other assets, cars, boats, jewelry, coins, collections, bank accounts, your business and anything else you own, she will be in a position to easily decide if she wants half of the house, or just wants to leave you swinging. Courts don't mind people wanting to divorce, but lawyers have a way of making a BIG DEAL out of spouse's who are not faithful.
You are toast, my friend, if she gets a decent lawyer. When they are done with you, the clothes on your back will be the only things which you have left. (Oh, and the memories of al that good sex).
Not a problem. By the time you give her alimony, half of your retiremewnt plans, half of your other assets, cars, boats, jewelry, coins, collections, bank accounts, your business and anything else you own, she will be in a position to easily decide if she wants half of the house, or just wants to leave you swinging. Courts don't mind people wanting to divorce, but lawyers have a way of making a BIG DEAL out of spouse's who are not faithful.
You are toast, my friend, if she gets a decent lawyer. When they are done with you, the clothes on your back will be the only things which you have left. (Oh, and the memories of al that good sex).
I've protected my account. You don't get to my age without learning a few things.
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Originally Posted by AlonzoHelmt
When I left home, I pulled out of the common account (it's hers now) and my brother signed in to my account. In case of divorce, she can't have any money from this account without my brother's permission (which will obviously not be given). At the same time, my brother can't take any money from it without my consent. I'm the only one who can move the money as I wish.
I can pay her a pension for many years but I won't give her free reign into my personal account.
I've protected my account. You don't get to my age without learning a few things.
ahhh....a good forensic accountant can slice through that in, say, $50,000 of billings (which you pay).
I don't think you have any idea of the hell and fury which can be unleashed upon you IF this woman decides to come after you.....
And from the sound of it, you have a few bucks, which attracts lawyers like flies, even if your wife isn't interested in coming after you, they can change that tune in, well, .......maybe a couple hundred grand in legal shenanigans before they get down to the real fighting.
Are you a US person, and are we talking a US marriage? Just your comments on this forum alone are enough to make your life a living hell for at least a decade...not to mention financially break you to nothing. Don't be quite so bombastic.....it isn't over until it is over, and this is just beginning.
If any of it is real, which with one post, I have my doubts. It is hard to believe you could be that naive.
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