Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I swore to myself I wasn't going to write anymore of my personal stuff but I like what the heck.
The wife and I have been talking since we split up and filed for divorce, we talk on a regular daily basis about how are things going and such. Last month there was a death in my family and she came down to Virginia from California with my kids to be there for me. She stayed at her girl friend's home and we would get together everyday and do all the family stuff I missed doing.
Then on one of those many conversations she told me she had made a mistake in causing us to split up and that she would like to work things out because she loves me and I have always been good to her.
I told her I am not the same person of 6 months ago, I don't care who she talks to anymore and that I should have given her the space she needed. She told me she has changed as well, all she did while we were separated was work and concentrate on the kids. I kind of got used to being alone by myself but I miss my kids and also her. She has lost a lot of weight but her butt still bubbleliscious LOL.
The divorce should be final this month and I asked her about it she said let's take things easy and if we decide we could get married again. I am willing to give it a second chance, maybe this was what we both needed (being away from each other) to value our relationship, and the kids never seem soooo happy when we go out together.
It sounds like your separation is going well and neither of you takes the other for granted right now and have discovered your mutual value and are growing and open. I've heard of couples who have divorced and remarried and did it better next time. Reading positively, it sounds like the divorce is a symbolic closure on the old habits and negative ways.
All that can be said is that it did not work the first time, so I would want all the cards on the table knowing 100% why and how to rectify it. Wouldn't jump right back in just yet.
I wish you well too, Mr. Cat. Looks like the time apart helped both of you to recognize what you truly mean to each other. I hope things work out for you guys.
I wish you the best sir. If nothing else I hope you have learned in this forum to go sloooooooooooooooooooow. I implore you to not rush and to really search your feelings when you are around and with her. Just keep working on yourself and if you are truly happy when with her then good for you sir!
Sometimes a separation can be the healthiest thing for a marriage, because it can put things in perspective.
Having said that, I would ditto the go slow comment, only because you wouldn't want to give your children false hope and bounce them around (I'm sure it was traumatic enough to begin with).
Anyway, Good Luck !!! - I hope it works out for you, your wife and your children.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
