Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I can't imagine any party being so much fun that I would prolong a relationship that wasn't making me happy. Life's too short, and there's always a good party to go to.
She had issues.
Oh yeah. I missed out because there were a few attractive single ladies at this soiree, I might add.
Last edited by YAZ; 01-17-2014 at 10:59 AM..
Reason: add
My ex husband left me a letter that he wanted a divorce. It wasn't a shock because we had been having issues, but dang! A letter to end a marriage!? I think if you are in an exclusive established relationship, then the right thing to do is tell them face to face. So many people take the coward's way out these days.
My ex husband left me a letter that he wanted a divorce. It wasn't a shock because we had been having issues, but dang! A letter to end a marriage!? I think if you are in an exclusive established relationship, then the right thing to do is tell them face to face. So many people take the coward's way out these days.
Everyone throws around the term of lifes too short to waste it. That's likely had some influence on some cowardly ways to dump someone.
My ex husband left me a letter that he wanted a divorce. It wasn't a shock because we had been having issues, but dang! A letter to end a marriage!? I think if you are in an exclusive established relationship, then the right thing to do is tell them face to face. So many people take the coward's way out these days.
The weird thing about that is.....y'all still had to talk afterwards, right?
I mean, things have to be divied up, settled, etc.
I wish I would have had a sit-down talk. I would like to have been able to ask questions and get answers. I still have those questions - and no answers - after a year.
Without answers, one's imagination can get the best of them, and sometimes, one's self-esteem takes a huge hit.
When two people have invested a lot of years together, I think that demands a bit of respect and courtesy - more courtesy than walking out. BUT, with a lot of years, there should be communication enough to discuss a problem well before considering a breakup.
the problem is that telling someone that you are breaking up with them can be bad enough and then witnessing how hurt the other person is getting because of what you are doing can be highly uncomfortable. Some people are just not equipped to deal with this kind of thing very well and can get extremely upset and dramatic about it which can make it very difficult for the dumper.
Dunno how to answer this. Have been married most of my adult life, and only two serious relationships after college. In my marriage and live-in situation, I was very clear about why things weren't working and what needed to change. After X-amount of time, I made plans to move out. Got an apartment and then told the person. "Look, things didn't change -- sorry. Gotta go." But I didn't just dump them, cold.
But, when I was a "kid" (high school, college), I did all kinds of nasty things, like pulling the disappearing act, not return phone calls, etc. These were "just seeing each other" kinds of situations, not relationships in which we talked about settling down for the long haul.
Dunno how to answer this. Have been married most of my adult life, and only two serious relationships after college. In my marriage and live-in situation, I was very clear about why things weren't working and what needed to change. After X-amount of time, I made plans to move out. Got an apartment and then told the person. "Look, things didn't change -- sorry. Gotta go." But I didn't just dump them, cold.
But, when I was a "kid" (high school, college), I did all kinds of nasty things, like pulling the disappearing act, not return phone calls, etc. These were "just seeing each other" kinds of situations, not relationships in which we talked about settling down for the long haul.
When you're just dating for a short time it's perfectly acceptable to pull a disappearing act. Too damn awkward otherwise.....
The media is full of stories about long term lovers breaking it off via email and/or a text message, or other cowardly passive aggressive ways. Others will pick a fight to get rid of someone who has started to bore them. Others claim they have met someone else when they really haven't. And of the course the main way to break it off with someone is to use the old standard. "I am so busy!"
So how about you? When you have broken it off with a lover, how do you give them the word? Do you sit them down and tell them why it is not working (in your opinion) or use the passive aggressive approach like sending an email or text or stop communications? And how has previous lovers broke it off with you?
A quick lunch in public so she can't yell at you.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
