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It doesn't matter the gender. Mention FWB and we're going to give the same advice: someone's going to get hurt. In this case, it's most likely going to be the inexperienced virgin.
On the other hand, I would understand if she has the attitude that she's ready to have some fun too, since everybody else is.
This is a good point. Would the advice be the same if the OP was a 24 year old male virgin? I'm sure a lot more people would say go for it because we automatically assume men can easily separate emotion from sex so the experience won't leave any emotional scars. The OP just has to realize that regardless how she feels after sex, there is no future with this man because of his situation. If you are okay with that, go for it.
Exactly!! I saw a similar thread with a virgin guy and people were telling him to get an escort or post an ad on craiglist
I know the guy's situation is weird and it's not like I'm planning to have a family with him
I have this friend that I've known for two years, lately we've hung out often with each other. We slept twice in the same bed, the first time we only kissed, the second time we almost had sex but I stopped him because I'm confused and not sure of what I want.
The thing is, he got out of a very serious relationship a year ago,in fact he was married. They still loved each other after their breakup, they separated for another reason. Now they don't live in the same country anymore but call and text each other often.
Me on the other hand, have never been in a real relationship, never loved never had sex with anyone. I wish I could have a love relationship but for some reasons I think it will never happen to me, I also really want sex.
I have talked to him about our "relationship" he agreed that we're not exactly friends but couldn't tell what we are, he wants to have sex first and think about the rest later.
I would like to have some advice, eventually hear people who have been through the same.
I have read somewhere that having a friends with benefits for a first relationship was not a good idea, any thoughts on that?
Thanks for reading
Don't do it....of course he wants to have sex first and think about the rest later? Men do not think about sex the way a woman does. Woman are emotional and you will want more, which this man will not deliver. Sex to men is just that sex.....you yourself said that he still loves his ex and they parted for another reason....you can remain friends however he will always want to have sex with you its just the way it is....
Of course you will have a love relationship in your life, once you let go of the thought of this being it....
good luck...
I don't see how it can be confusing to sleep in a same bed than a man if i'm sleeping in unflattering clothes, make up free, and that I'm basically on the other side of the bed
You have a lot to learn. A lot. You are a single girl. He is a single guy. You were in the same bed with the lights out. You were the only one not thinking about sex.
Anyways, so you want to have sex for the first time? I am assuming that trolling your local bar to meet this objective is unacceptable? So, you are going to have to resort to dating but what kind of dating? Dating to get married or just sport dating?
You're 24 so maybe just sport dating? So, that means some random guy that you are going to get to know and feel comfortable enough with to sleep with. Maybe that new guy is trying to use you for sex....you might not know until a little ways into the relationship after you sleep with him.
Or, you could sleep with this guy you have known for years. He will probably be a good first choice. Since you know him and his history enough to know that he might be disease free. You do have an emotional tie with him so maybe that will make your first time better?
Anyways, you are putting this having sex for the first time on a pedestal. You know you want to do it ... than just do it. Maybe it will turn into a relationship. Maybe it won't. Maybe he will use you. Maybe you will use him. Anyways your posts all say I want to dump my virginity...it sounds like you are the one that wants to do the using...and there is nothing wrong with that.
If you don't want to deal with anything I just posted stay a virgin until marriage. Then you can be 100 percent sure he wasn't using you for sex.
I have this friend that I've known for two years, lately we've hung out often with each other. We slept twice in the same bed, the first time we only kissed, the second time we almost had sex but I stopped him because I'm confused and not sure of what I want.
The thing is, he got out of a very serious relationship a year ago,in fact he was married. They still loved each other after their breakup, they separated for another reason. Now they don't live in the same country anymore but call and text each other often.
Me on the other hand, have never been in a real relationship, never loved never had sex with anyone. I wish I could have a love relationship but for some reasons I think it will never happen to me, I also really want sex.
I have talked to him about our "relationship" he agreed that we're not exactly friends but couldn't tell what we are, he wants to have sex first and think about the rest later.
I would like to have some advice, eventually hear people who have been through the same.
I have read somewhere that having a friends with benefits for a first relationship was not a good idea, any thoughts on that?
Thanks for reading
As a guy that doesn't care about this kind of stuff, I would still recommend against it.
I don't think it's in your best interests, this will not lead to anything beneficial in your life.
I've decided not to do it.... I have noticed since I've stopped him from having sex with me he is not giving me news or texting me all the time like he used to so yeah I do not want a guy that is just after sex, I have waited a long time, I can wait more I guess
Yes, for your sake, wait more. I don't mean this in a rude way, but from your posts you seem like you still have a long way to go maturity wise before you can handle a FWB situation....maybe not even sex itself yet. You just don't sound like you're mentally and emotionally mature enough for this type of thing.
"To sleep or not to sleep with my friend (I'm a virgin)"
My first experience was with a much older female friend and I thought it was the best/safest way to lose my virginity compared to a stranger or someone new. For the OPs case it may not be the same because of his possible current involvment with someone else.
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