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It all boils down to preferences but yep overweight people who think others will overlook their weight but refuse to overlook other's weight are usually delusional. When I did online dating I was approached by obese men who would complain about the "fatties" on the site not realizing they were probably fatter than the women they were attacking. They would then get upset when I rejected them as I am not attracted to obese men (and no I am not fat).
I think maybe you need to re-read what I said. I said I *would* give him a chance, because I always like to meet people with shared interests, even if it doesn't lead to anything romantic.
Sad fact but a woman's value in the eyes of men is heavily (heh) weighted on her appearance. Having a 6 figure salary, killer humor and charm aren't going to make a fat woman attractive, but they can raise the status of an overweight man, which in turn raises his attractiveness. Whine, rationalize, or call me misogynistic, but these are facts.
Sad fact but a woman's value in the eyes of men is heavily (heh) weighted on her appearance. Having a 6 figure salary, killer humor and charm aren't going to make a fat woman attractive, but they can raise the status of an overweight man, which in turn raises his attractiveness. Whine, rationalize, or call me misogynistic, but these are facts.
Wrong. These are your opinion. Plenty of men will agree with you but a lot will not.
An overweight woman can be attractive with or without a 6 figure income, charm, etc. Someone out there will think she's attractive. And while there are plenty of women who may be drawn to an overweight man due to his income plenty more will not be interested. Some women really don't care about that as much natural attraction. If they aren't attracted then a 6 figure income is not going to help the guy. If the 6 figure income is the deciding factor for a woman, maybe this guy should look out! As for his charm or humor, these are good personality traits that can make anyone, man or woman, more appealing to others.
You're right. While this may not take the sting away for the OP, he revealed himself to be shallow. If he would have allowed himself a little more depth, he would have found out the OP is looking to drop some of the weight, and they could have made it a date thing... hiking, gym partners, etc. It obviously wouldn't have hurt him to get a little more active.
Honestly, as a person who is extremely unphotogenic, you could randomly select a pic and I would never have been asked on any dates.
Exactly. (and me too!)
At the end of the day, she's better off finding someone who isn't so quick to judge before even meeting.
If he remains alone because of judging people before meeting them in person, hopefully he figures out one day that it's actually not too much effort to spare an hour or two with someone you really hit it off with. It's amazing how much more attractive someone can become in your eyes with an incredible personality, intellect, wit, shared interests/passions, whatever gets you going.
Sad fact but a woman's value in the eyes of men is heavily (heh) weighted on her appearance. Having a 6 figure salary, killer humor and charm aren't going to make a fat woman attractive, but they can raise the status of an overweight man, which in turn raises his attractiveness. Whine, rationalize, or call me misogynistic, but these are facts.
I'm afraid I have to agree. It seems distasteful, and I'm sure a discussion on whether it's cultural conditioning or biological imperative would fill the whole thread to bursting, but it does seem to be the reality of the dating world.
Wrong. These are your opinion. Plenty of men will agree with you but a lot will not.
An overweight woman can be attractive with or without a 6 figure income, charm, etc. Someone out there will think she's attractive. And while there are plenty of women who may be drawn to an overweight man due to his income plenty more will not be interested. Some women really don't care about that as much natural attraction. If they aren't attracted then a 6 figure income is not going to help the guy. If the 6 figure income is the deciding factor for a woman, maybe this guy should look out! As for his charm or humor, these are good personality traits that can make anyone, man or woman, more appealing to others.
Fat women are not attractive to men outside of fetish and guys without the ability to attract non overweight women. Your one off "she is attractive to someone" has no place in generality discussion.
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