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I tend to stay away from people who consider themselves disadvantaged because of their sex, or pawn off their own shortcomings on "unfair societal standards," and/or eagerly jump at the chance to play the victim.
You are doing all three.
So "stay away" from me then. Not really concerned about it.
And yes, everyone is allowed to have their preferences, as has been discussed *ad nauseam* on this forum.
So guys, explain to me rejecting a woman as too heavy - without ever having met her or interacted with her - when, relatively speaking, he is heavier than she is?
I believe that you answered your own question. He prefers women that are slim.
So "stay away" from me then. Not really concerned about it.
And yet, you came on CD-R to whine about your problems, which are totally under your control to change. Even worse, you have pawned off all of the responsibility for your situation on societal expectations, mens' expectations...h*ll you even pawned some of it off on estrogen. Baaaahahahaha.
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And yet, you came on CD-R to whine about your problems, which are totally under your control to change. Even worse, you have pawned off all of the responsibility for your situation on societal expectations, mens' expectations...h*ll you even pawned some of it off on estrogen. Baaaahahahaha.
Obviously, you are concerned.
The truth hurts like a sometimes but this is absolutely true.
MoonBeam, if weight is the reason why you can't find a mate, you might consider losing weight. As simple as that. Almost every giant or deformed woman will envy you for having the opportunity to turn everything around on your own.
I would rather be overweight and have the opportunity to lose weight as being super tall. No diet and nothing I can do to change that fact.
I can't just shrink or cut off my legs.
Your extra pounds eliminate maybe 50% of the dating pool, my height eliminates around 80% of the dating pool. If I would gain weight, I probably would have eliminated 90%.
I don't sympathize with big people's whining. They have the power to lose weight. Just do it or be happy with the way you are and take the consequences.
yes, we DO have to work harder to lose weight. But it is no excuse to NOT do it.
I agree, generally women have to work harder to lose weight than men. But within their own genders there remains a stark amount of variance from on woman to another. Forget age differences, let's take two 25 year old women. Are we really going to believe that they have the same level of abilities? If we could take the same two women, same age, same weight, height, and basic body shape, give them the same food plan and workout routine for the same length of time, and both participants put forth their maximum effort, we still cannot definitively say they would lose the same amount if weight. Maybe they would, or maybe it would be close. But maybe the difference would be noticeable from one woman to another.
My point is not to make excuses for anyone. I beleive anyone can lose weight if that is their choice to pursue such efforts. But I bristle at how dismissive some people are toward overweight people and their "excuses." I prefer to recognize that everyone has different natural abilities and some people may be more predisposed to shed pounds when they decide to lose weight, others' bodies may be more resistant for a number of reasons.
Furthermore I'll add that not every overweight person wants to lose weight to begin with. And if this is her choice and she is happy with it, who is anyone else to judge? Certainly like any choice, the choice to be overweight and make no attempt to change it comes with ramifications. But the women I've dated who have made this choice knew fully well they would render themselves unappealing to some men and accepted it without complaint. These women tended to be very confident in themselves, and as a man, I find a woman who has confidence in herself to be extremely appealing, even if she is overweight.
I agree, generally women have to work harder to lose weight than men. But within their own genders there remains a stark amount of variance from on woman to another. Forget age differences, let's take two 25 year old women. Are we really going to believe that they have the same level of abilities? If we could take the same two women, same age, same weight, height, and basic body shape, give them the same food plan and workout routine for the same length of time, and both participants put forth their maximum effort, we still cannot definitively say they would lose the same amount if weight. Maybe they would, or maybe it would be close. But maybe the difference would be noticeable from one woman to another.
My point is not to make excuses for anyone. I beleive anyone can lose weight if that is their choice to pursue such efforts. But I bristle at how dismissive some people are toward overweight people and their "excuses." I prefer to recognize that everyone has different natural abilities and some people may be more predisposed to shed pounds when they decide to lose weight, others' bodies may be more resistant for a number of reasons.
Furthermore I'll add that not every overweight person wants to lose weight to begin with. And if this is her choice and she is happy with it, who is anyone else to judge? Certainly like any choice, the choice to be overweight and make no attempt to change it comes with ramifications. But the women I've dated who have made this choice knew fully well they would render themselves unappealing to some men and accepted it without complaint. These women tended to be very confident in themselves, and as a man, I find a woman who has confidence in herself to be extremely appealing, even if she is overweight.
Personally, I'm pretty accepting of a women with extra weight unless she is having major health issues because of it.
The concept of diet is extremely simple, but difficult and arduous to execute. Most overweight people don't want to under take a total life change in the way they eat and view food. A lot of people live to eat, while they should be eating to live.
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sometimes but this is absolutely true.