What's your biggest (solvable) complaint against the opposite sex? (women, attracted, younger)
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I know most of the forum is just unproductive fun and bickering, but maybe you name one complaint against the opposite sex where someone might read your post and be like "Ok. I do kinda do that. Maybe I won't anymore."
Obviously, complaining that women don't like short men is an unsolvable complaint. They don't and no amount of complaining will get them to change their mind. Ok.
My problem is that women (some women especially) go out of their way to laud compliments on a guy's character when they have no physical attraction to him. Like telling a guy what an awesome guy they are, and how cool they are, and how smart, and funny. It's pretty obvious there's a damn good chance that guy is going to fall for you when you start throwing crap like that around. So, why do it?
At this point a woman could say all of the above to me, and I'd still expect rejection, but at least for the younger guys who don't know any better, maybe women could tone that down?
So your complaint is that you cannot understand what someone says to you? And that becomes a problem with "women"?
No. I understand what women are saying. "I think you're funny, smart, and a good guy, I'm just not attracted to you."
If 30 guys all said that to you, and were not interested in you, would you be happy about that?
I'm not saying I have a problem with women not being interested, I'm just saying tone back on the compliments. Be aware that you may be leading a guy on.
I don't have a complaint against men as a gender. I may have complaints regarding individual men's various behavior, but those are specific complaints against individuals and their behavior, regardless of gender.
Also, if someone complimenting you makes "fall for" that person, there might be something else going on. It seems a little needy. Being nice is not leading someone on. Some people just see encouragement to develop crushes where it doesn't exist.
Can I make a complaint about BOTH sexes? This way, it's equal opportunity
I think men and women need to be more cognizant about the expectations they have towards each other. Manage your expectations and be honest about what you do and don't have. Life will be much easier that way.
HOW do you manage your expectations? Well it takes some time, but start small. Think about certain things you subconsciously expect from the opposite sex and why it's not realistic. A good way to do this is to remember people change and it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes the change can yield poor results, but it's how you deal with it which determines if you grow from it or are bitter about it.
I don't have a complaint against men as a gender. I may have complaints regarding individual men's various behavior, but those are specific complaints against individuals and their behavior, regardless of gender.
Also, if someone complimenting you makes "fall for" that person, there might be something else going on. It seems a little needy. Being nice is not leading someone on. Some people just see encouragement to develop crushes where it doesn't exist.
I'm not saying that every woman who calls you smart wants your body.
I'm saying that women who call guys awesome, and funny, and 'the best' and 'the coolest', you don't think that might get a man to fall for you? You think we're robots? You KNOW what I'm talking about. Everybody does.
I have waaay more complaints about women then I do about men. I have very very few problems with men in general. It's women I cant stand. Which is unfortunate, being one myself.
I think men and women need to be more cognizant about the expectations they have towards each other. Manage your expectations and be honest about what you do and don't have. Life will be much easier that way.
HOW do you manage your expectations?
Right. Which is what I said. I myself would not expect any level of compliment or flirting to equate to romantic interest. ANY amount.
But if I was younger and dumber, it would have helped if women didn't laud all those flowing compliments on me when they clearly had no attraction.
My complaint would be when a person complains or blames the opposite sex when it's really their own issues they can't or won't recognize and do something about.
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