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I find it interesting that a woman can message a man about the most casual topic, and he is off and running. It's as if some thing got him started. He starts a whole chat session. Not just one guy has done this.
I wonder why woman have to send the original message to get any form of communication.
I also wonder why men will say that no one is interested yet they won't even send a message. THAT'S how conversations start AND how relationships start.
How will you ever get to know someone if you don't just say, "Hi", and see what happens? Or why not write, "I saw your post about roofing your house . . . ". There are only a couple things that can happen. She will write back and say, "Gee, thanks", she might write back and tell you about different issues with the roof (opening up the way for more dialogue), or she won't respond at all. What's there to lose?
So, messaging a man gets him chatting up a storm. Then, when the relationship is over, they can't even give a reason.
Most men have probably had too many unpleasant experiences.
I'm guessing you're talking about online dating here. You probably messaged a model-looking guy (which are the only guys that get messaged online). He didn't message you first because he has other girls messaging him.
I find it interesting that a woman can message a man about the most casual topic, and he is off and running. It's as if some thing got him started. He starts a whole chat session. Not just one guy has done this.
I wonder why woman have to send the original message to get any form of communication.
I also wonder why men will say that no one is interested yet they won't even send a message. THAT'S how conversations start AND how relationships start.
How will you ever get to know someone if you don't just say, "Hi", and see what happens? Or why not write, "I saw your post about roofing your house . . . ". There are only a couple things that can happen. She will write back and say, "Gee, thanks", she might write back and tell you about different issues with the roof (opening up the way for more dialogue), or she won't respond at all. What's there to lose?
So, messaging a man gets him chatting up a storm. Then, when the relationship is over, they can't even give a reason.
I find it interesting that a woman can message a man about the most casual topic, and he is off and running. It's as if some thing got him started. He starts a whole chat session. Not just one guy has done this.
I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but 95% of men don't get any attention from women and thus have no reason to believe that any woman would want to talk to them. If a woman does initiate conversation with them, or so much as smiles at them, they become ecstatic; it's the highlight of their day, probably the highlight of their month.
The number of times I've been messaged by a woman in the past year is exactly once, very recently in fact. I don't even like her, but it felt good to know that she might like me.
The number of times I've been messaged by a woman in the past year is exactly once, very recently in fact. I don't even like her, but it felt good to know that she might like me.
^^^^That's why they don't write. Leave those kind of negative comments out.
It only takes one good post and the will write.
... There are only a couple things that can happen. She will write back and say, "Gee, thanks", she might write back and tell you about different issues with the roof (opening up the way for more dialogue), or she won't respond at all. What's there to lose?
For many men, "what's there to lose" is yet another particle of dignity and self-assurance that's lost when a batch of messages is sent to women, and zero respond.
I won't enter the fray debating who has an easier time dating - men or women - but I've definitely joined the camp of those who have become convinced, from personal experience and anecdotal evidence, in that in online dating, the response-rate to messages sent by men to women is staggeringly paltry. This explains, I think, many of the weird and disconcerting trends and behaviors in online dating.
That said, I agree with the OP that no adventure can begin without the initial foray - namely, the sending of a first message.
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