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Originally Posted by hooplaman
Now your faulty moral compass makes sense when you reference your friends.
If you people want to go around screwing others why even bother getting married then?
Ha, my moral compass is fine, thank you. It just doesn't include being uptight and judgmental.
They got married because they love each other, want to spend their lives together in a partnership, and proclaim it to the world. Same reason most people get married (hopefully).
Your question alone - If you don't want sex, will you allow your SO to have sex with someone else? - my answer would be I won't even be in a relationship. I would rather find a mountain/boondocks I can live like a hermit on.
My quoted post where you explain the scenario. My choice is I would go or let them go. I am strictly monogamous and I can't live with someone who I know sleeps with other people. Yuck.
See now, this I respect. You know what you can live with and what you can't live with. And if you can't or don't want sex for any reason, you're not going to be selfish and expect them to be abstinent with you. You'd let them go. Much more respectable. Thank you for showing me there are a few who aren't so selfish. ESPECIALLY because you said YOU'D let them go....not, "they can leave if they want". This would be my alternative too if I couldn't see them having sex with anyone but me.
So a lot of people here would abandon their spouse if they became a quadriplegic because they weren't capable of getting laid anymore by them.
Ok.
I don't think that's what a lot of people are saying. But the question is, if you're the quadriplegic, would you allow your SO to have sex with someone else?
If my SO became a quadriplegic, I'd hope he'd understand that I'd have to look outside our relationship for sex. And I'd hope he'd allow it. If he didn't, I'd have to seriously reconsider the relationship and how long I'd stay for, etc. Sex is important to me. Just as important as touching and cuddling. Just as important as having the same values. It may not be to you, but for many people, it is important and well, you have to ask yourself what you're willing to sacrifice. We all make sacrifices for the ones we love....but how much is too much?
So a lot of people here would abandon their spouse if they became a quadriplegic because they weren't capable of getting laid anymore by them.
Ok.
I can't imagine ever leaving my husband - maybe unless he was brain dead. But neither him nor I want to be kept alive if we are brain dead. He's my everything and I'd rather have a sexual relationship with my toys than leave him or be with someone else if he became a quadriplegic. But that's just me and I don't expect everyone to feel the same way I do.
I can't imagine ever leaving my husband - maybe unless he was brain dead. But neither him nor I want to be kept alive if we are brain dead. He's my everything and I'd rather have a sexual relationship with my toys than leave him or be with someone else if he became a quadriplegic. But that's just me and I don't expect everyone to feel the same way I do.
You do realize though, if you "allowed" it, it's really not infidelity, right?
How can it be "monogamous" if they're not having sex with each other? Would it be moNOgamous SEX? hehe. Besides, if the other partner is having sex, but with one other person (and not you), that's still monogamy.
I respect your opinion, I'm just looking at it from a different POV.
It is infidelity whether it's allowed or not if the relationship is established as monogamous. Just because some allow cheating in their marriages doesn't change that it's adultery.
It can be monogamous if one is not having sex with the other as monogamous is about the relationship not sex as it's defined as a form of relationship in which an individual has only one partner during their lifetime or at any one time. It's not monogamy if the other person is having sex but with another person as monogamy is about fidelity as in one partner.
Do tell where did you get that I hate guys so much from me not allowing the guy to have sex with someone else rather encouraging him to end the relationship?
Do tell where did you get that I hate guys so much from me not allowing the guy to have sex with someone else rather encouraging him to end the relationship?
I think you're just a little too frank for some of the male posters on here. lol
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