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I only had one ex where I had to deal with her ex and I honestly broke it off for this reason and a few others. She insisted it was normal to have ex's as friends while for me this is COMPLETELY unacceptable. For any man with even a shred of dignity this is not in the slightest bit acceptable. None of my girlfriends have to deal with my ex's and I make sure of this because why should they as my SO's? Every now and then I have one that contacts me and I tell them all straight up that I am not available and don't think its a good idea to catch up.
I am curious to see how many women here think that they can be friends with their ex's and why?
No matter what sort of rationalization you guys might come up with that sexual component will always be there rather you admit it or not. Old feelings die hard!
I only had one ex where I had to deal with her ex and I honestly broke it off for this reason and a few others. She insisted it was normal to have ex's as friends while for me this is COMPLETELY unacceptable. For any man with even a shred of dignity this is not in the slightest bit acceptable. None of my girlfriends have to deal with my ex's and I make sure of this because why should they as my SO's? Every now and then I have one that contacts me and I tell them all straight up that I am not available and don't think its a good idea to catch up.
I am curious to see how many women here think that they can be friends with their ex's and why?
No matter what sort of rationalization you guys might come up with that sexual component will always be there rather you admit it or not. Old feelings die hard!
I'm a guy and I talk to my exes sometimes.
I don't really find it to be a big deal.
If a girl is going to cheat on me, I don't really give a crap. I'll just dump her and find another girl.
If a girl is going to cheat on me, I don't really give a crap. I'll just dump her and find another girl.
Let's see how your girlfriends handle you talking to your ex's still or do you just not tell them. It always comes to bite you back in the ass. I have this one friend who I hooked up with once and NEVER dated and no matter what I always take the heat for still being friends with her even though she isn't an ex. Just one stupid drunken night...
It's not about caring if a girl cheats on you, my philosophy is give the girl all the rope she needs to hang herself. That's not my concern, I just don't want to put myself in such a stupid situation that is just bound to be screwed. Why should I invest when the risk is unacceptable?
Let's see how your girlfriends handle you talking to your ex's still or do you just not tell them. It always comes to bite you back in the ass. I have this one friend who I hooked up with once and NEVER dated and no matter what I always take the heat for still being friends with her even though she isn't an ex. Just one stupid drunken night...
It's not about caring if a girl cheats on you, my philosophy is give the girl all the rope she needs to hang herself. That's not my concern, I just don't want to put myself in such a stupid situation that is just bound to be screwed. Why should I invest when the risk is unacceptable?
My gfs don't care, I treat them well enough and give them enough attention that they don't have to worry too much about me. The only one that was ever bothered was possibly the most controlling person I have ever met in my life.
There's risk in any relationship. Going by your ideas, you shouldn't let any of your girlfriends go to parties or clubs without you because she might cheat on you. If a girl is gonna cheat on you, she's going to do it whether it's her ex boyfriend or some random dude at the bar. Take it as you wish.
I talk to my son's father and I am friends with one. Mature people can stay friends.
Well this doesn't really apply to you because obviously you have a child together. And also you aren't in a relationship at the same time so as a single person you can do as you please.
I wouldn't call my ex-husband my friend, more of an acquaintance. I never initiate contact but will reply if he texts, or if I ever run into him, will speak. My SO is similar, doesn't go out of his way to contact an ex, but will also reply if contacted. Neither of us would call an ex a friend that we'd want to spend time with.
Did I say otherwise? I don't really care much for the man POV on this issue considering I am looking for the female specific POV.
Also as a man I am pretty sure I know the male POV.
That was a lady......
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