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I've just spoken with her on the phone to tell her I won't be going to the wedding and that we won't ever meet again. She ended up in tears but I suppose she understood it's the best to both of us. I told her I wish her the best and hope everything goes well with the marriage.
I've already deleted and blocked her on Facebook and will change my phone number and emails tomorrow.
It'll be a terrible weekend but once it goes away, everything will be okay.
I've just spoken with her on the phone to tell her I won't be going to the wedding and that we won't ever meet again. She ended up in tears but I suppose she understood it's the best to both of us. I told her I wish her the best and hope everything goes well with the marriage.
I've already deleted and blocked her on Facebook and will change my phone number and emails tomorrow.
It'll be a terrible weekend but once it goes away, everything will be okay.
Thanks everyone for the answers.
It's tough, man. But when it is serious time at this age, these are the decisions that have to be made. This is real life.
She showed up at my house today, crying and saying we don't have to stop being friends! I had to close to the door in her face and told her to never show up again.
She showed up at my house today, crying and saying we don't have to stop being friends! I had to close to the door in her face and told her to never show up again.
This is more difficult than I ever thought.
Look man, this is what happens when you block people & leave them with no way of contacting you.. It's one thing if you hate someone's guts, but there's obviously still "love" between you. Being compassionate and gentle is extremely important w/ people you care for, even if you're releasing them & letting go..
We have a few friends in common...should I cut off with them as well in case she tries to contact me through them?
I don't think that would be necessary unless it becomes a continued source of unhealthiness. As long as there is no overt, direct contact where she still tells you how much she is into you, then a background connection type of thing should not be a big deal.
A few other things:
The back and forth can't go on forever, unless you want to be that type of guy. You sound 100% sure of the no commitment, and if that will always be true, then you have taken this as far as it will go--it has run its course and this is the only outcome possible. She is too old to be doing this if she wants to move forward with a family/her life.
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Originally Posted by Alppiano
She showed up at my house today, crying and saying we don't have to stop being friends! I had to close to the door in her face and told her to never show up again.
This is more difficult than I ever thought.
I would not want to be the guy she is marrying given this, but that part isn't on you. These types of things are always difficult at first, but eventually she will have kids and her kids will be her life. That is usually how these things go. Several years out it will be a non-issue.
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