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I would say the one who cares least controls the fate of the relationship not the relationship itself. If you care little, you can say it and end the relationship at any tme without much emotional consequence to you.
Relationships are about love, companionship, and trust. It's not a contest. I don't know why people try to make it one. Folks need to grow up.
No kidding. Your spouse/SO is not your enemy, someone you're trying to get one up on. A marriage/relationship is a partnership with someone you love, not someone you're in a power struggle with for control.
There is not one culture on the planet that encourages people to be poor or without power, fame etc. Every country in the world worships power, popularity, dominance, authority, and so on. So isn't it logical to conclude that the same mindset - the worship of power - would have influenced the nature of relationships as well? Not saying it should be that way, but isn't it clearly the case, unfortunately?
Of course it has influenced the nature of relationships, in many complex and unsavory ways. But the OP statement was much more reductionist than that. The OP posits that every single relationship is a ruthless power struggle, where the ultimate goal is to dominate and control your partner. That is pure hyperbole. Some relationships may play out that way, but it is not the case with most relationships. Most relationships are more than simple power struggles. Most relationships are fraught with love, guilt, passion, regret, hope, disappointment, compassion, etc.
Last edited by RogersParkGuy; 04-29-2014 at 07:27 AM..
I voted disagree, because the question presupposes that relationships are some kind of struggle for power and domination between the partners. Some relationships do play out that way, but no relationship I would ever be a party to.
I voted disagree, because the question presupposes that relationships are some kind of struggle for power and domination between the partners. Some relationships do play out that way, but no relationship I would ever be a party to.
I agree with this sentiment. In a reasonably healthy relationship, neither party is calculating his power in relation to hers, or vice versa. And while one person might feel more than the other, if that person is healthy, he or she can still be a full partner, negotiate needs, and leave if that time comes.
No kidding. Your spouse/SO is not your enemy, someone you're trying to get one up on. A marriage/relationship is a partnership with someone you love, not someone you're in a power struggle with for control.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if that were true and everyone thought this way? Sadly though that is not the case and there are people out there that manipulate and control their SO. I've been told that those people lack self confidence and are very insecure so they try and control everything around them to protect themselves. However, when you are living it and experiencing it, it's a living nightmare from which you NEVER wake until the day you walk out that door.
I've heard this idea for years. Do you agree or disagree with this quote? Be sure to vote
No one can properly answer this on any level. Emotions (feelings) are as individual as those who have them and no one can know the depth of emotions/feelings of another human.
There is not one culture on the planet that encourages people to be poor or without power, fame etc. Every country in the world worships power, popularity, dominance, authority, and so on. So isn't it logical to conclude that the same mindset - the worship of power - would have influenced the nature of relationships as well? Not saying it should be that way, but isn't it clearly the case, unfortunately?
No, I think he was right... and actually, I was under the impression that western cultures at least worship individuality, self-expression and liberty... some would even throw equality into the mix. People tend to get kind of upset if a leader tells them that they need to worship their power and dominance.
Loving someone isn't about completely forgoing your own needs, wants, feelings and ideas in favor of theirs... if that's how you're approaching the relationship it's either unhealthy or not going to last.
If someone didn't care about the relationship and tried to have "power" over me I'd just dump her lol.
What is this, high school?
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it and end the relationship at any tme without much emotional consequence to you.
