"The one who loves the least controls the relationship", agree or disagree?

[nikitakolata]

Originally Posted by homina12

I agree with this sentiment. In a reasonably healthy relationship, neither party is calculating his power in relation to hers, or vice versa. And while one person might feel more than the other, if that person is healthy, he or she can still be a full partner, negotiate needs, and leave if that time comes.

I agree. Relationships shouldn't be a power struggle and even if one person does care/love/whatever more than the other it doesn't make them some sort of door mat to be walked all over.

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Because it really does seem to be true to many people. I think even I would have to agree.

Even with all of that it doesn't stop people from trying to reach their 'ideal' or what they percieve is an ideal relationship. The alternative would be to give up.

[the minx]

It is true if there's an individual with a weekness involved.

One of my relationships had a huge imbalance because my partner was so head over heels that he put all his needs and wants aside to make me happy, essentially putting me in "control," thinking that would keep me around. In fact, that's part of the reason I walked - I don't want a partner who doesn't value himself enough to speak up.

[Faith2187]

I agree.