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My girlfriend and I have been together for 13 years. We get along very well and I like her not only because she's beautiful and intelligent but because she allows us to keep our own personal spaces. No nagging or trying to control every move. We frequently travel on our own or with friends and go out at night with our own friends. Of course we do that together as well but it doesn't have to be all the time.
We've always lived apart even though we obviously spend weekends and holidays together.
Lately, however, she has been mentioning marriage a lot. I don't know if it's because many of our friends have married in the past 2 years and she's fascinated with that. I've caught her looking at wedding dresses in magazines/the web and if we are guests at a wedding she'll say things like "Isn't that beautiful? Just imagine it was us there."
I've been trying to avoid the issue because she knows my position regarding marriage better than anyone else but if she goes on acting like this I'll have to ask her what's going through her head.
Do you think I should talk with her or just ignore the issue and it'll go away on its own?
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If she wants marriage and you don't, she'd do well to leave you and find someone who does. Especially if she's decided she wants kids as part of the package. If you two got together in college or shortly after, it could be that her mommy hormones are kicking in, now.
The problem is she hasn't said anything directly to me. It's just a few comments and her change in attitude regarding marriage. She's all of sudden very interested in that.
If you two got together in college or shortly after, it could be that her mommy hormones are kicking in, now.
She was in college at the time but I had already left. I'm 12 years older. We've never talked about kids, we have just been enjoying the moment until now.
The problem is she hasn't said anything directly to me. It's just a few comments and her change in attitude regarding marriage. She's all of sudden very interested in that.
Age/hormones. Nesting instincts are kicking in. She needs a man who's on the same page as she is.
The problem is she hasn't said anything directly to me. It's just a few comments and her change in attitude regarding marriage. She's all of sudden very interested in that.
If you are completely against getting married and it seems that she is now interested in it - then you have an issue that you should address. If you will never get married - it needs to be said so that she can decide if she needs to move on or not. Would you rather wait for a few more years or deal with it now?
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