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Yeah. I know you're right, but I've tried to leave he pours on the charm, saying he'll give me more time (which, in all honesty, I don't think I'm asking for too much time, just want to hear his voice every now and then). So I've told him that we're not a good match and he needs someone more laid-back. But he cries and says he wants to marry me, blah blah blah. I think he likes the chase, bc when he thinks he's about to lose me, he lays it on thick.
He's doing it because it works.
Though why it would work is beyond me.
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I forgot to mention that I always have to drive to see him. We live about 25 miles apart. I don't mind sometimes but...
And, although I'm not materialistic AT ALL, he's never bought me even a birthday card. I guess it's just a bunch of tiny things that add up. But I don't want to be demanding, that's why I'm posting to get others' views.
Thanks for all the responses so far!
The extreme introverts I have been in relationships with wanted to see me every day. Even introverts fall in love. They just also need some alone time every day.
I agree with 'he's not that into you'. I also think it's pretty likely he has another gf or wife.
Any suggestions of a good book that'll speed up the "finally letting him go" process? Once and for all, I mean. Because I've tried ditching him many times, but I'm a sucker for him when he begs to have me back.
Perhaps tell him you do not have time for him on the weekends because you work and if he wants to see you he can drive the 25 miles to come to your place through the week on one of your days off.
Otherwise I think you have been wasting a lot of time with this man.
Very good advice (thank you!!) but I think it's finally time to let him go.
Can't live life without that happening a few times.
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Yeah. I know you're right, but I've tried to leave he pours on the charm, saying he'll give me more time (which, in all honesty, I don't think I'm asking for too much time, just want to hear his voice every now and then). So I've told him that we're not a good match and he needs someone more laid-back. But he cries and says he wants to marry me, blah blah blah. I think he likes the chase, bc when he thinks he's about to lose me, he lays it on thick.
Really? Thats a stretch. You have a weekend relationship and he says he wants to marry you. If he's a man, pay attention to what he does, not what he says.
Your move. Your in control.
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I'm an idiot
Yes. No-one is exempt from being an idiot. And life still goes on.
Very good advice (thank you!!) but I think it's finally time to let him go.
Tell him the truth. Honesty can sometimes free us. Tell him you love him, but your needs aren't being met. Simple, honest and to the point. Tell him what bothers you. See if he can change it or is willing too. If he doesn't, that's your cue that you've wasted enough time.
Good luck Mia, I wish you well.
Oh, and I agree with LS above. We all can and will be idiots at times in our life. None of us are exempt. This I will generalize.
We ALL can be an idiot.
I forgot to mention that I always have to drive to see him. We live about 25 miles apart. I don't mind sometimes but...
And, although I'm not materialistic AT ALL, he's never bought me even a birthday card. I guess it's just a bunch of tiny things that add up. But I don't want to be demanding, that's why I'm posting to get others' views.
Thanks for all the responses so far!
What I find strange is that he doesn't even want a phone call at all during the week. I mean, it doesn't have to be long. Usually when two people care about eachother, they just want to call and say goodnight.
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. If he's a man, pay attention to what he does, not what he says.
