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Hi everyone There's this guy that I've been in an on-again/off/again relationship with for a long time. He has a ton of characteristics I love: compassionate, creative, wears his heart on his sleeve, and attractive. However...and please let me know if I'm being paranoid or too picky...there's something about him that I just don't trust. He disappears, not on weekends, like most people complain about, but on weeknights! He doesn't want to see me or chat on the phone, or email, during the week. I've talked to him about it, and he says he's just addicted to television and wants to unwind after work. Well, I think this behavior is a bit strange. I've Googled this, but I can only find answers for people who's significant other disappears on the weekends.
Am I asking too much? Especially since he has a lot of good qualities. Thanks!
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Disappears? Or, just stays in and chills? If he works hard and long, or even just hard, I can't really blame him for taking it easy and de plugging in the evening. I sure the heck do (even though TV isn't my vice).
But what does it matter? If it doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you. That's pretty much all you need to know.
Maybe he just needs time alone and the only way to get that is to "disappear" and not answer the phone or messages a few nights during the week. I do that myself, and I'm not up to anything nefarious.
Hi everyone There's this guy that I've been in an on-again/off/again relationship with for a long time. He has a ton of characteristics I love: compassionate, creative, wears his heart on his sleeve, and attractive. However...and please let me know if I'm being paranoid or too picky...there's something about him that I just don't trust. He disappears, not on weekends, like most people complain about, but on weeknights! He doesn't want to see me or chat on the phone, or email, during the week. I've talked to him about it, and he says he's just addicted to television and wants to unwind after work. Well, I think this behavior is a bit strange. I've Googled this, but I can only find answers for people who's significant other disappears on the weekends.
Am I asking too much? Especially since he has a lot of good qualities. Thanks!
If all he's doing is watching TV, why not drop by one night, to watch with him? Bring a dessert, or something. See what happens. If he freaks (if he's there at all), just say, Aww, honey, I just missed you too much..."
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Hi everyone There's this guy that I've been in an on-again/off/again relationship with for a long time. He has a ton of characteristics I love: compassionate, creative, wears his heart on his sleeve, and attractive. However...and please let me know if I'm being paranoid or too picky...there's something about him that I just don't trust. He disappears, not on weekends, like most people complain about, but on weeknights! He doesn't want to see me or chat on the phone, or email, during the week. I've talked to him about it, and he says he's just addicted to television and wants to unwind after work. Well, I think this behavior is a bit strange. I've Googled this, but I can only find answers for people who's significant other disappears on the weekends.
Am I asking too much? Especially since he has a lot of good qualities. Thanks!
This statement written by you should be all you need to make a decision regarding the future of this relationship.
Sounds like he's leading two lives. To not want so much as to even receive a text from you during the week makes me think he doesn't want you to be found out. He's living w/ someone he's afraid of seeing a message come through from you. I think you're his weekend fling.
Disappears? Or, just stays in and chills? If he works hard and long, or even just hard, I can't really blame him for taking it easy and de plugging in the evening. I sure the heck do (even though TV isn't my vice).
But what does it matter? If it doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you. That's pretty much all you need to know.
I hear what you're saying, but he knows I work weekends mostly, yet I want to see him so I give him weekend time. Maybe I am asking too much...
Unannounced? That's a good way to kiss what you have goodbye. I had that happen a couple of months ago. Ugh. The end. So rude.
Agreed. I am NOT a have of dropping by unannounced.
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There's this guy that I've been in an on-again/off/again relationship with for a long time. He has a ton of characteristics I love: compassionate, creative, wears his heart on his sleeve, and attractive. However...and please let me know if I'm being paranoid or too picky...there's something about him that I just don't trust. He disappears, not on weekends, like most people complain about, but on weeknights! He doesn't want to see me or chat on the phone, or email, during the week. I've talked to him about it, and he says he's just addicted to television and wants to unwind after work. Well, I think this behavior is a bit strange. I've Googled this, but I can only find answers for people who's significant other disappears on the weekends.
